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Innocent Mistakes Small Businesses Make That Damages The Reputation with Stacey Price

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About This Episode

Did you know that one of the top reasons why businesses fail in the first 5 years in business is due to lack of cash flow?

Well…today, I invited Stacey Price, the founder of Healthy Business Finance, to be a guest on the show. She’s a qualified Chartered Accountant, Registered BAS Agent and self-confessed numbers nerd who specialises in helping business owners to understand their financial information.

What’s also special about this episode is, we not only spoke about what mistakes entrepreneurs make at the beginning stage of businesses, but also, how she has created a very unique value proposition for her clients in such a traditional field.

Not only that….we speak about;

1. How to Successfully transition from a corporate job to owning a business
2. Creating a simple business plan with no planning
3. How to stand-out in a competitive market by changing ‘How’ business is done
4. How to make a traditional product into an exciting new offering
5. A different way to look at your ideal client and how to attract more of them
6. Innocent mistakes small businesses make that damages the business for good
7. Difference in being financially proactive and reactive
8. Hiring talent when you have no money (this is a real golden nugget)
9. Mindset shift that needs to happen when you become your own boss
10. How thinking out of the box created a business with no nest egg to invest

Trust me! If you either plan on going to business for yourself or you already have a venture, this episode will have some real gold.

Again….don’t forget to subscribe and share …….

Resources

About The Guest

Founder & Chief Accountant, Healthy Business Finances

Stacey is a qualified Chartered Accountant, Registered BAS Agent and self-confessed numbers nerd who specialises in helping business owners to understand their financial information.

But she is no boring, traditional accountant. She embraces cloud technology, is passionate about training and educating her clients, and she love innovation to streamline processes (including embracing Facebook and Instagram for her Accounting and Bookkeeping business).

She may be a qualified accountant, but she doesn’t talk accounting lingo nor does she sit in a corporate stuffy office wearing a suit. She works from co-working spaces, has staff that work remotely and she speaks “small business” so that her clients can finally understand their ATO obligations in plain English. And dare I say it, she makes numbers fun.

Frustrated with the stupidly high failure rate across small business owners due to lack of knowledge and cash flow, she provides virtual Financial Coaching sessions to help clients Australia wide arm themselves with the knowledge to attack their payroll, accounting software, bookkeeping, budgeting and pricing with ease.

Music Credit

Music by: Ryan Jones
Song: Blink

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



3 Signs to Indicate You’ve Forgotten You’re HUMAN



This is a different kind of a post to the ones I normally do, but I felt that it was time.

As a Coach, I speak with various types of people and every now and then, I recognize patterns in the challenges they face. And some of them are very human challenges that we treat them as different. So today….. I want to dedicate this post to speaking about some of those challenges so that if you face any of them, you’d have a different perspective of them

1. Stressing about being stuck

If you’ve never felt stuck in something….you’re one of the rare lucky ones. As for the majority of us….commonly we feel stuck in different situations and areas of life every now and then.

And when we do…it’s also common to stress about the fact that we’re stuck. Try to “figure it out”, sit on a therapy chair talking about it for years, meditate on it, sleep on it, lose sleep over it, etc.

But getting stuck every now and then is in our very human nature.

Think of a stick stuck while floating in a river. You might notice that it’s stayed stuck for probably a few hours or days even….but take a step back and you’d see things differently.

When you take a step back you’d see that all sticks will float for a bit….and then get stuck in a corner. Sometimes for minutes…sometimes for hours….sometimes for months. But eventually, it will get a slight nudge from somewhere and it will start to flow again. It would get stuck again…at a different spot…but eventually it will get unstuck and forget all about it.

And it does that hundreds of times…!

We humans are like that as well. Sometimes we’re in flow with life (and we’re happy about it because we’ve been told that, that’s the way to be) and then sometimes we get stuck and then we become unhappy about the fact we’re stuck and stress about it. Because we’ve been told that it’s bad to be stuck. That there’s something wrong with you for staying stuck that long!!!

When you take a few steps back from your life, you’ll realise that you’ve done this your entire life. First day at school, first crush, first heartbreak, uni drama, first job, first real relationship….and the list goes on.

The only thing you didn’t know about  is….how long you’d stay stuck, at what point you would get stuck again and how exactly you’d get unstuck (e.g. a new opportunity that came by, a person you met, conversation with a mentor/coach, a change in your external environment, etc).

But you just did!

Whenever you feel stuck with something...a bigger opportunity is unfolding in the background that’s not ready for you yet.

But because you’re so close to it, you just can’t see it. But when you look back after many years ….you’d realise why you were stuck at that exact point. What good came out of it as a result.

The moment you get stressed about the fact that you’re stuck…..remember it’s the human nature and you’d get unstuck at any moment as you’ve done many times throughout your life. So stop stressing about trying to “figure out” how to get unstuck!

If you ‘know how’ to do it, you would’ve already done it by now!

It’ll happen when it happens.

2. Expecting to Have THE Perfect Relationship with Kids

Have you ever met anyone who hadn’t had challenges with their parents at one stage or another?

Have you met parents who’ve never had challenges with their kids at one stage or another?

What makes you think that you can become a parent who never had any problems with your children? And there’s something wrong with you if you don’t?

This is a fantasy that a lot of parents have, to become the perfect parents who never had any problems with their kids, ever!

If I speak with your parents or whoever was looking after you growing up, you know what kind of a report card I would get about you, right?

Yet, they were doing exactly what you’re trying to do! Trying to do the best, to the best of their ability with what they had. So if your kids are going through a phase of being stubborn, hating you, rebellious & hurtful……just know that they’re just going through a phase. It too shall pass just like it did for you!

Sometimes...you can help them and sometimes all you can do is to be there for support and let them know how much they’re loved.

And the rest will fall into place.

So please stop beating yourself up thinking you’re doing a bad job, unless you can find a parent who’s never had ANY problems with their kids EVER!

You’re merely being human.

Note: If you DO find a parent who’ve never had ANY problems with their kids (and the kids turned out to be great), I would like to be the first one to know about them.

3. Being scared to feel scared

‘How do I get rid of my fears entirely so that I can go out and be my best self?’

This is a question that I get asked ALOT. And I’ve got some good news and bad news!

Bad news is….YOU CANNOT!

Good news is……I can show you how to TURN FEAR INTO AN ASSET!

We all have fear at some level or another for different things, people and situations. But unfortunately, fear is a commonly misunderstood feeling just because we give the wrong meaning to it.

The reason why you’re alive today…is because of FEAR.

Think about it this way…..imagine your ancestors thousands and thousands of years ago…..during hunter gatherer period…when they had to deal with a lot of dangerous circumstances; they survived because of fear!

Anyone who didn’t feel fear enough….got wiped out of this earth. So the mere reason why you’re born today is because your ancestors had enough fear in them to survive. It’s inbuilt to our human nature.

Wanting to get rid of fear is like wanting to get rid of your own shadow!

It ain’t going to happen!

However, you can use fear as a compass. I’ve written a dedicated article on how to do exactly that, hence I’m not going to repeat.

You just don’t have to get scared of feeling fear! It’s just another feeling like ‘happiness’!

Do you worry when you feel happy? If the answer is no, treat ‘fear’ the same!

The next time you feel fear when reaching out to someone big, making a presentation, speaking publicly, going for an interview/negotiation, or whatever else you fill your life with…

Good! It means that you’re about to do something great!

Feel the fear and do it anyway! Because that too shall pass!

Wanting to get rid of it means that you’ve forgotten you’re human.

And ….if you don’t know this already….

In life some of the things you do will work out...and some of it won’t.

Now If you think…. ”I know that Vindya! Duh!!”

Well…do you? Because if you did, you wouldn’t be going at everything in life as if it’s a matter of life and death! Would you?

It may sound stupid! But it’s a simple truth in life that we all forget.

*****Ok…I know I said 3 Signs…but I had to write this one too

4. Expecting to be an exception to the rule because you’re serving a higher purpose

How many instances have you seen a person being rewarded not necessarily because they’re the best at what they do, but because they put themselves out there more?

Or a person with average talent make a bucket load of money, while people with greater gifts are just scraping by?

How many times have you failed to convince a point…regardless of how great your work is?

I hear a lot of people who do creative work/entrepreneurs who do what they do because they’re on a mission…..get surprised about the fact that they’re not served a better hand in life just because they’re doing work that’s for the greater good.

Another truth of life is that you cannot escape hard work, proactively marketing your vision, making sales, making money, principles of business, social norms….just because you’re creating something great.

They’re things that’s equal to all human beings regardless of what you do.

Just because you’re a good person, doesn’t mean that other people are going to automatically discover your greatness and reward you for it

Or money is going to flow through the door…or you can get away with slacking off and not put in the work necessary to get the results!….or the deals are going to magically appear without you having to lift a finger.

It’s a truth of life that each and everyone of us have to do our part before the universe starts to reward you for it

regardless of your gender, age, race or religion.

This is why you see people with lesser talents move forward and you’re left wondering why not me! Rather than understanding what part you need to play…you’ve spent your time complaining about how the system doesn’t work..or how the society is bad..

Again….defying this as a truth of life….is again forgetting that you’re a human living in a human world.

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I hope this made some sense and gave a different perspective even in the slightest possible way.

Sincerely,

V.

How Nexba Turned Iced Tea Into a Global War On Obesity with Troy Douglas

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About This Episode

Ever wanted to build a brand that spans across the globe?

My guest today, Troy Douglas, Global CEO & Co-founder of Nexba Beverages tells the extraordinary tale of how at the tender age of 21 he partnered with his brother-in-law to disrupt the global soft drinks market.

Both boys had no experience in building a business or the Fast-Moving Consumer Goods market but yet they set on their mission and began selling their patented iced tea from the back of a van. Now Nexba is Australia’s leading Naturally Sugar Free drinks provider, having recently gone global and launched into the UK.

On Art of the Extraordinary podcast today, he shares;

1. How to stay on top of competition in a highly competitive market that’s already filled with giants
2. How to build a businesses with no Business background
3. Nexba’s Key Ingredient in growing fast in a highly saturated market
4. How to build a brand that would be successful in the long run
6. Growth that’s had to take place to become a great leader
7. One quality that’s seen Troy through set-backs
8. The journey to raising capital for a high growth venture
9. How to prepare for long term success
10. The wrong way to go about building a business

Don’t forget to subscribe and share with anyone who wants to go beyond boundaries with their message.

Resources

Website – Nexba

Follow on Facebook | LinkedIn | Instagram

Other Resources Mentioned

About The Guest

Co-founder and Global CEO of Nexba

Troy Douglas is the co-founder and Global CEO of Nexba, Australia’s leading Naturally Sugar Free beverage brand now sold in over 3000 outlets nationally. With a passion for innovation Troy now heads up the International strategy, growth and direction of the Nexba brand.

Nexba was created with the vision to bring Naturally Sugar Free innovation to Australians and beyond in the war against obesity and diabetes. Now, 8 years since its inception, Nexba have received widespread recognition for their achievements in innovating and disrupting Australia’s beverage industry, including winning Product of the Year 2017 and the inaugural Telstra’s Alumni Achievement Award 2018. In 2018, as Global CEO, Troy led Nexba into their first international market signing a major deal with UK supermarket giant, Sainsbury’s.

Music Credit

Music by: Ron Raffel
Song: April

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



How to Grow a 7 Figure Business whilst living with a Chronic Disease

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About This Episode

How would you like to create a business that is built around your life?

Well…today…I had the opportunity to speak with Paul Higgins who has spent the last 7 years figuring out the exact steps needed to build a 7 figure lifestyle independent business. His inherited condition lead him down this path after a stellar executive career at one of the most recognizable brands (i.e. Coca Cola) on the planet, but his tenacity and grit saw him win against all odds.

On today’s episode Paul shared his experience on…

  1. How to overcome the challenges that comes with being an entrepreneur and doing what you really love
  2. Creating the support network that’s needed to push you forward
  3. Masterminds and how to use them to move you forward fast
  4. The knowledge from a global business leader like Coca Cola that helped in the business journey
  5. Common mistakes made when jumping from corporate to business
  6. How to do market research THE RIGHT WAY
  7. The mindset that requires you to be successful in business
  8. How to mitigate risk and dealing with set-backs
  9. Running a business on your own terms even with health challenge

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Resources

Website – Build Live Give

Free Save 2 Hours to double your revenue download

Follow on Facebook | LinkedIn

Other Resources Mentioned

About The Guest

Community owner, Podcaster and Tech Evangelist

After a stellar executive career at one of the most recognizable brands on the plant, Paul faced a decision of either staying and risking his health or leaving and extend it. He chose the later and started his own company. He became a world qualified coach, advisor to blue chip companies and a productivity expert.
Whilst he liked corporates, he had a desire to work with entrepreneurs and founded an outsourcing and tech consulting business to deliver extraordinary results for global clients. His health started to take its toll and he divested the outsourcing business and created a mastermind for employees transitioning into entrepreneurship. Leveraging from his own experience.
Today he helps corporate escapes to build their dream business without sacrificing lifestyle. He is community owner, podcaster and tech evangelist who is passionate about thriving with an inherited condition.

Music Credit

Music by: Wooden Smile
Song: Ziv Moran

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



Having it All: How to Make Use of all 25 Hours in a Day with Andrew Tjernlund

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About This Episode

Today I had the opportunity to speak with Andrew Tjernlund, who is known as the man who took a small family business to become Amazon’s largest supplier in the Industrial/Electrical space, on the show.

His lifetime sales on Ebay and Amazon are EACH in the 8 figures and he now also sells directly to Amazon from which a six figure order is a weekly event. He shared his wisdom about;

  1. Secret sauce to building a multi million dollar business
  2. How to turn weaknesses into strengths
  3. How to be creative to overcoming external roadblocks can pay in tenfold in the long run
  4. Building a business that’s stood the test of time for 4 generations
  5. Winning deals through beyond strategies and tactics
  6. How to deal with setbacks that you didn’t see coming
  7. How to plan for the changing landscape of business using time-tested business principals
  8. How to get to your goals faster using your strengths
  9. The secret that a lot of successful entrepreneurs don’t tell you about
  10. How work-life balance work in running a multi-million dollar

and much more…..

Hint: Andrew shares a great golden nugget (among many) about the winning approach to doing anything great

Don’t forget to subscribe!

Resources

Tjernlund Services

Follow Andrew on Facebook | LinkedIn

Personality Types – 16 Personalities

4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

About The Guest

Director of Marketing, Tjernlund Services

Andrew began his first importing business in 2005 at 19. Graduating with “High Distinction” in 2 majors from the Carlson School at 20, Andrew now owns and operates three businesses related to manufacturing, retail sales and third party marketplaces.

Took a small family business to become Amazon’s largest supplier in the Industrial/Electrical space. Operate that and several other businesses.

His lifetime sales on Ebay and Amazon are EACH in the 8 figures and he now also sells directly to Amazon from which a six figure order is a weekly event. Now 33, he lives in Hidden Hills Preserve with his wife and two young children.

Music Credit

Music by: Ryan Jones
Song: Japanika

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



Insights vs Information with Vindya Vee

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About This Episode

If you wonder why another one of these podcasts is created when there are so many out there, this episode will answer the question and set the tone for the rest of the episodes for the coming weeks, months and years to come.

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About The Host

High Performance Coach, Author and Speaker

Vindya Vee is an internationally renowned High-Performance Coach who works with the world’s top 1% of talent. Her clients include business owners and executives & managers servicing Fortune 1000 companies working across 13 countries.

She is known for her unique skills in thought leadership, identifying unique talent & deep impactful coaching. She has a strong vision and great passion for supporting remarkable individuals create extraordinary success and exponential results.

Vindya’s dream is to help the hard-working women in our society who have a dream to not just make money but make a difference in the world.

Vindya helps men and women who are powerful and passionate, have a bias for action and who crave for more; breakthrough common threads, familiar mistakes, that hold them back from creating the business they love.

Her approach is powerful, direct and bold. She is known for her ability to make something that may look impossible, possible and create strategies that would serve as a catalyst for long-term change for anyone who’s ready to make an impact.

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



How to Build a Business Stress Free?



Regularly I speak with business owners who want to create an even bigger impact in the world with their product/service or message. And time again cannot help but hear about how worried they are of the future.

“I can’t sleep because I worry that I wouldn’t be able to close that 100K deal”

“I’m stressed that I I will lose it all”

“I feel burnt out and seem like I never get anywhere”

In all of these cases they work hard (12-14 hour days), trying to make ends meet, especially the first few years. And most of them even have lost the creative energy they had when they first started the business that they love so much, because they’re stressing so much.

From this space, as you can already tell, it’s almost impossible to create anything! If you’re somebody who thrives under pressure….bravo, you’re a rare gem. Keep reading if you aren’t one.

While all of these are valid concerns, they’re also unnecessary stress. Most of the time, these worries will never come true.

But it’s in our human nature to worry…

So how do you be free around creating a business, especially in that early stage when there are so many uncertainties?

Something that I always tell my clients is….

“It's not a sprint, it's a marathon” - Vindya Vee

A lot of us live like it’s going to end tomorrow, if I don’t get that deal… if I don’t convert that sale… if I don’t get that payment…

The list goes on.

So, we work our asses to the ground.

And quite often we end up feeling burnt out because we haven’t been listening to our body and soul when we need some rest. We haven’t been listening to our mind to know when we need to just take some time out.

Because we think that this is a short term thing, that we need to be over and done with. And if you can’t wait for it to all be done with…then maybe you’re doing something that’s a means to an end. (I talk about this in a previous article)

Because most of the time, the projects we work on, takes a long time to bear fruit.

Sometimes months…

A lot of the time years…

But most of us want results when? Yesterday.

Make more money yesterday.

Create more clients yesterday.

Build an empire yesterday.

But what if you don’t? What if takes a little longer than you expected?

Imagine what would happen to a marathon runner who run it like a sprint from the get go…

How long do you think he/she’s going to last? How long is he going to run until he drops dead on the track while the others who’ve understood that this is a marathon surpasses him?

I’m sure you familiar with the story about the tortoise and the hare.

It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon!

You might think “well…that sounds great but I’ve got bills to pay”

In which case, take care of those needs some other way. Have back-up funds. Create some reserves some other way. Buy yourself time, so that you can bring that creative energy back.

You know the one I’m talking about!

That energy that makes you feel like you’re on top of the world when you’re in your zone.

Because when you’re in a panicky state, you don’t think straight and you make all the wrong decisions.

Take the pressure off what you’re creating.

Whether it’s a business, a piece of artwork, a book you want to write!

Because with pressure you ain’t going to be your best self. The only thing that will happen is you get stressed out, burn out and make bad decisions.

Isn’t the whole point of what you want to create, to have fun while doing it anyway?

Have patience, put in the work, let go of short term outcomes because it’s worth the end goal and be in it for the long haul. Be the hare.

Run it like a marathon and before you know it, things will start to shift and fall into place automatically.

Gold medals aren’t won on the day of the race, they’re won in training.

Years and years and years of training. And it’s easy to forget that sometimes.

Sincerely,

V.

How Ordinary People Can Do Extraordinary Things!



If you dream of doing extraordinary things but every now and then, you ask the question “Who Do I Think I Am?”…don’t worry…..it’s perfectly normal.

So today, I want to share with you a podcast I did recently with April Seifert on her  great Podcast Women Inspired.

In our conversation we talk about;

  • How we underestimate ourselves & what we are capable of achieving
  • The impact of other people’s words on our own ability to set and achieve goals
  • Imposter syndrome and HOW TO TAME IT!
  • Practical tips for playing bigger

Have a listen and comment below.

What has been your biggest insight from this episode?

Love,

V.

How Successful People Jump Leaps & Bounds Before You Know It

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Time and time again I come across very smart people who would like to take their current role in their career to the next stage or double the income in their business, take on more responsibility, make a bigger impact, get more recognition, make more money …..you name it.

Most people come to me with very rigid lines in their mind about who they are, what they can and can’t do. And some of them even tell me that their challenge is that they need to be able to communicate better, write better emails, have more confidence, network more…and the list goes on.

As if they knew for sure that if they ‘did’ something different, they would have everything that they don’t have. Or if they stopped ‘doing’ some things, the challenges they are facing would go away.

And then they would be happier, have better people around them, be less stressed, take more vacations, make more money, make a bigger impact, etc.

So, the moment that they feel like something is missing their first idea is to upskill, do another course, a certification, a degree, work faster, work better, be more ‘productive’, manage time better, learn ‘persuasion’, “Win friends and influence people”, etc.

But very few people stop to ask themselves the question……

” What if I don’t have to ‘DO’ anything different?….”

“What if I’m not missing anything?”

“What if it’s about doing exactly the opposite of what I’ve been ‘DOING’ all this time….”

In fact…

What if it’s got less to do with doing…and more to do with how you are BEING?

Ahhhhhh……………

Yes…..

BEING!!!

What if it’s not another skills you need to pick or a course you need to do, another seminar that you have to go to….

But what if…just by shifting who you are being…..you challenges would go away….?

Everything that you want that you don’t have…would appear in front of you….

Everything that you don’t want to have in your life…..would just disappear like magic….

And every problem that you think you feel stuck in….would become unstuck…

Just…….what if?

This has been the basis of my work since I started my profession (sure… the skills, the tactics and the strategies play a part in it) and the very moment somebody realise this, their whole world changes.

But you have to be willing to open your eyes and look at the world from a different lens. And stop making excuses for the lens you are already wearing.

Because everything that you have in your life is because of the way you’re being right now. And everything that you don’t want in your life, is because you’re being in a way of attracting them.

So, before you think of taking another course, start another degree, or a certification….ask yourself….

What challenges do I wish would go away?

What goals have I been struggling to get to?

How am I being around these challenges?

Is it time to change the lens?



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

V.

P.S. Since it’s coming to the end of January 2019 already, if you still feel like you haven’t set yourself up to win, come join me and our community of extraordinary High Performers and let’s make this year an amazing one.

Got a difficult boss to deal with or a tough person to manage?

Since the industrial age, books had been written, trainings have been created and courses have been held on handling difficult people. Specially in the corporate set-up. There are lots of techniques among these that work to a great extent. However, I’ve heard of many cases and I personally know myself that none of these tactics have worked.

 

And 99% of the time it’s because of something that cannot be explained by logic, strategies and tactics. Yet, very few know about it.  The people who are aware of this are very successful at dealing with difficult, sensitive situations as well as have great awareness of themselves.

 

The reason why this cannot be explained using logic is because the root cause lies at a human level.

So let me tell you a story…

 

Once upon a time ago…in a far far away land…(just kidding)

 

Story 1

 

Once a highly talented professional came to me asking for help with his work. He felt like calling in sick every morning all because of one person: his manager… In his words ‘I feel like quitting everyday. I hate when she micromanages, it just drives me crazy. I think it’s time I quit’.

 

I’m sure we’ve all felt like this at one stage or another. While I felt for him putting up with this for 8 hours/day, 5 days a week, I needed to find out exactly what was happening. So through our conversation I found out she was keeping her fingers in the pie, at all times, just to meet her deadlines.

 

Unhealthy management style? Sure… But this was not the issue here. The issue lies in how he felt when she did this. And when I dug a little deeper I discovered the way his manager was acting made him feel untrustworthy, controlled and micro managed.

 

Something interesting about this professional was freedom was one of his highest values and her behaviour was triggering emotions from his childhood of not trustworthy, controlled and deep down feeling not good enough. So when he’d see her at work, he’d be angry, frustrated and anxious.

 

Maybe the manager was acting wrong, but regardless, the emotions being triggered had nothing to do with her. And the very moment he came to understand this, he became self-aware enough to create a strategy to deal with it.

 

Story 2

 

An Executive level manager once came to me with to complain about how a subordinate of his was super difficult to manage. He said he tried everything in the textbook and nothing seem to work!

 

The Executive manager was even considering letting her go because she’d been ‘told’ many times and still no improvement.

 

When I dug deeper (as I do!) it was clear the subordinate was not necessarily acting disrespectfully, but rather some of the things she did (for whatever the reason) the Executive was giving it the meaning ‘disrespectful’.

 

And not surprisingly….this wasn’t the first time someone had been acting this way…

 

It turned out, this subordinate’s behaviour was triggering a memory of people from his childhood! (crazy, right?)

 

And what was happening was, because this being a sensitive spot for the Executive, everytime someone behaved even remotely close to the behaviour he saw as a child, it brings back all the negative emotions he felt when he was a child.

 

Hence, ‘that person is disrespectful’!

 

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So what’s the point?

 

When we interact with other, even for a brief moment, we filter a lot of information we see, hear and feel through our past experiences, a lot even from childhood. And as a result, a lot of emotions get triggered even when they have no relevance.

 

Unless you are a very self aware person and have dealt with all of the baggage from the past (regardless how perfect you think your childhood was) it’s very easy to miss this.

 

‘So what do I do about this Vindya?’…

 

Well….have you encountered the same kind of scenario with different people from different teams or companies in the past? Think of a person you’ve had difficulty dealing with…

 

How do they make you feel?

What do they do to make you feel that way?

Are there patterns in behaviour?

Who from your past gave you the same negative feelings?

 

Please note that for you to do this, you have really dig deep into your psyche. I may make it sound easy as I’ve been doing what I do for years.

 

Some of the most mysterious cases gets resolved this way. While all tactics you’ve learned will make you a great professional, being aware of the emotional side would move you leaps and bounds.

 

So here’s the challenge I would like to leave you with…

 

What relationship do you have at work, in your business or at home, do you wish was easier?

 

And if you do change things around, how would that change things for you?

 

XOXO,

V.

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