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Vindya Vee

How Successful People Jump Leaps & Bounds Before You Know It

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Time and time again I come across very smart people who would like to take their current role in their career to the next stage or double the income in their business, take on more responsibility, make a bigger impact, get more recognition, make more money …..you name it.

Most people come to me with very rigid lines in their mind about who they are, what they can and can’t do. And some of them even tell me that their challenge is that they need to be able to communicate better, write better emails, have more confidence, network more…and the list goes on.

As if they knew for sure that if they ‘did’ something different, they would have everything that they don’t have. Or if they stopped ‘doing’ some things, the challenges they are facing would go away.

And then they would be happier, have better people around them, be less stressed, take more vacations, make more money, make a bigger impact, etc.

So, the moment that they feel like something is missing their first idea is to upskill, do another course, a certification, a degree, work faster, work better, be more ‘productive’, manage time better, learn ‘persuasion’, “Win friends and influence people”, etc.

But very few people stop to ask themselves the question……

” What if I don’t have to ‘DO’ anything different?….”

“What if I’m not missing anything?”

“What if it’s about doing exactly the opposite of what I’ve been ‘DOING’ all this time….”

In fact…

What if it’s got less to do with doing…and more to do with how you are BEING?

Ahhhhhh……………

Yes…..

BEING!!!

What if it’s not another skills you need to pick or a course you need to do, another seminar that you have to go to….

But what if…just by shifting who you are being…..you challenges would go away….?

Everything that you want that you don’t have…would appear in front of you….

Everything that you don’t want to have in your life…..would just disappear like magic….

And every problem that you think you feel stuck in….would become unstuck…

Just…….what if?

This has been the basis of my work since I started my profession (sure… the skills, the tactics and the strategies play a part in it) and the very moment somebody realise this, their whole world changes.

But you have to be willing to open your eyes and look at the world from a different lens. And stop making excuses for the lens you are already wearing.

Because everything that you have in your life is because of the way you’re being right now. And everything that you don’t want in your life, is because you’re being in a way of attracting them.

So, before you think of taking another course, start another degree, or a certification….ask yourself….

What challenges do I wish would go away?

What goals have I been struggling to get to?

How am I being around these challenges?

Is it time to change the lens?



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

V.

P.S. Since it’s coming to the end of January 2019 already, if you still feel like you haven’t set yourself up to win, come join me and our community of extraordinary High Performers and let’s make this year an amazing one.

Got a difficult boss to deal with or a tough person to manage?

Since the industrial age, books had been written, trainings have been created and courses have been held on handling difficult people. Specially in the corporate set-up. There are lots of techniques among these that work to a great extent. However, I’ve heard of many cases and I personally know myself that none of these tactics have worked.

 

And 99% of the time it’s because of something that cannot be explained by logic, strategies and tactics. Yet, very few know about it.  The people who are aware of this are very successful at dealing with difficult, sensitive situations as well as have great awareness of themselves.

 

The reason why this cannot be explained using logic is because the root cause lies at a human level.

So let me tell you a story…

 

Once upon a time ago…in a far far away land…(just kidding)

 

Story 1

 

Once a highly talented professional came to me asking for help with his work. He felt like calling in sick every morning all because of one person: his manager… In his words ‘I feel like quitting everyday. I hate when she micromanages, it just drives me crazy. I think it’s time I quit’.

 

I’m sure we’ve all felt like this at one stage or another. While I felt for him putting up with this for 8 hours/day, 5 days a week, I needed to find out exactly what was happening. So through our conversation I found out she was keeping her fingers in the pie, at all times, just to meet her deadlines.

 

Unhealthy management style? Sure… But this was not the issue here. The issue lies in how he felt when she did this. And when I dug a little deeper I discovered the way his manager was acting made him feel untrustworthy, controlled and micro managed.

 

Something interesting about this professional was freedom was one of his highest values and her behaviour was triggering emotions from his childhood of not trustworthy, controlled and deep down feeling not good enough. So when he’d see her at work, he’d be angry, frustrated and anxious.

 

Maybe the manager was acting wrong, but regardless, the emotions being triggered had nothing to do with her. And the very moment he came to understand this, he became self-aware enough to create a strategy to deal with it.

 

Story 2

 

An Executive level manager once came to me with to complain about how a subordinate of his was super difficult to manage. He said he tried everything in the textbook and nothing seem to work!

 

The Executive manager was even considering letting her go because she’d been ‘told’ many times and still no improvement.

 

When I dug deeper (as I do!) it was clear the subordinate was not necessarily acting disrespectfully, but rather some of the things she did (for whatever the reason) the Executive was giving it the meaning ‘disrespectful’.

 

And not surprisingly….this wasn’t the first time someone had been acting this way…

 

It turned out, this subordinate’s behaviour was triggering a memory of people from his childhood! (crazy, right?)

 

And what was happening was, because this being a sensitive spot for the Executive, everytime someone behaved even remotely close to the behaviour he saw as a child, it brings back all the negative emotions he felt when he was a child.

 

Hence, ‘that person is disrespectful’!

 

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So what’s the point?

 

When we interact with other, even for a brief moment, we filter a lot of information we see, hear and feel through our past experiences, a lot even from childhood. And as a result, a lot of emotions get triggered even when they have no relevance.

 

Unless you are a very self aware person and have dealt with all of the baggage from the past (regardless how perfect you think your childhood was) it’s very easy to miss this.

 

‘So what do I do about this Vindya?’…

 

Well….have you encountered the same kind of scenario with different people from different teams or companies in the past? Think of a person you’ve had difficulty dealing with…

 

How do they make you feel?

What do they do to make you feel that way?

Are there patterns in behaviour?

Who from your past gave you the same negative feelings?

 

Please note that for you to do this, you have really dig deep into your psyche. I may make it sound easy as I’ve been doing what I do for years.

 

Some of the most mysterious cases gets resolved this way. While all tactics you’ve learned will make you a great professional, being aware of the emotional side would move you leaps and bounds.

 

So here’s the challenge I would like to leave you with…

 

What relationship do you have at work, in your business or at home, do you wish was easier?

 

And if you do change things around, how would that change things for you?

 

XOXO,

V.

P.S. If you’d like to know more, download free book ‘5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top’.

How to make FEAR Your Weapon

Is there a project/idea that you’ve been craving to take on?
But you never got started with it…

Maybe the time was never right.
Maybe there wasn’t enough money.
Maybe you never found the courage to move forward with it

Or maybe when you think of starting, you ask the question…

‘Who do you think you are to be dreaming of doing something so big…..when you are not even good enough to be doing what you’re doing now’

Each and every one of us has asked this from yourself at one stage or another….

And most people would take it to heart and stop….

Stop dreaming.
Stop growing.
They stay put.
Stay mediocre.
Stay invisible.
Continue to be comfortable…

…so you don’t get hurt if you fail!

But the few who understand these thoughts are actually normal… are the ones who make the impossible happen….

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First of… if you’ve had these thoughts, the only thing it means is that you’re human!

As humans, biologically we’re wired to feel fear when we’re in danger!

It’s good!
It’s normal!
It keeps us safe!

Unfortunately….the part where we get tricked is when our subconscious has a hard time differentiating real danger (like a tiger in your room) to a made up fear (like speaking in front of an audience).

So the very moment you try to do something different….
Something out of the ordinary….
Something that makes your heart sing although it makes no logical sense….

Your subconscious kicks in the same danger response because it’s wired itself to believe that ‘new’ = danger!
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But in actual fact it just wants you to be safe….

Safe from getting hurt (that you may not feel)…
Safe from failure (that might not happen)…
Safe from the humiliation (you most likely will not face)…
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So we make a decision to become the person who never tried….
Because if you don’t try, you’d will definitely fail.
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I can also guarantee you that you would NEVER know what you could become either!
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The difference between a person who does extraordinary things and the person who’s ordinary, is that the person who’s extraordinary understands the fear, acknowledged it…
And sent it aside as just a thought in their mind….
Nothing more…nothing less….
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Fear is often the greatest indicator of something amazing you want to create, become or do…

The question is: which way will you use it…
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Would you use is as a security blanket….
Or would you use it as a weapon to move forward?

XO,

V.

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Why You Never Achieve the Things on Your Vision Board…(and what to do about it!)

So…you’ve been thinking about doing a vision board but never got around to it!

Or….you’ve had one for some time but still there’s a lot of stuff that’s been there for quite a while, but never realised!

Maybe you’re not even sure whether it would be possible to get everything you want in life, because it looks so far away from where you are.

After a few conversations with a number of my clients, I thought I’d set the record straight!

Vision boards are NOT a board with pretty pictures of sceneries, blue skies and beaches to look at. If you want to do it right and actually achieve the things on your vision board, there’s certain do’s and don’t that apply.

So, let me start with a vision board that I picked randomly to take as examples of WHAT NOT TO DO when you create a vision board.

The universe around you is very creative & powerful and it can make anything happen for you. Now…although the universe is very powerful….It cannot read your mind and the only thing it has to go on making your vision a reality is what you put down on the board.

So…let me read this board as the universe would….

0. She wants go on camping

  1. She want a bottle of wine and 2 full glasses
  2. She wants a guitar (or go for guitar lessons?)
  3. She wants play with a bunch of balloons
  4. She would like to have a bowl of fruit
  5. She wants to have a window like that, wood floors and white benchtop
  6. Some words that she likes (not sure what to do with that)
  7. She wants to stay in a hotel with a pool like that (in Bali?)
  8. She wants a bicycle
    You get my point…..!

But my feeling is that the person who created this board just wanted to have fun, enjoy, relax and have more holidays. But unfortunately, the universe read the vision board as it is. Literally!

At the moment it’s so confusing, the universe just gives up and forget about it. And that’s when the things on your board never come true.

So without taking any more time…here are tips to creating a great vision board that would actually get you to your vision without a fail.

1. Set-up only for the next 12 months
It feels great when we put up so many great photos of blue skies, holidays, babies, weddings, lamborghinis, etc. The chances that you would get all of them is not very little. And what happens as a result of putting things that looks soo…big, overwhelming and decades out into the future, is that everytime you look at it….it’s because something that’s merely a dream and nothing else. And every year when you look at them…you subconsciously don’t believe that you can get it. Because you’ve gotten to the habit of just dreaming about it.

Tip: Have only the things you want to achieve (holidays, buying a new dress, getting married, buying the next car,etc) on the board.

2. Have things that inspire you on a seperate board
A lot of the time we mix up inspiration with our mission. For an example, if there are words (like on the board above), quotes, celebrities that when you look at them that inspires you, remove them from the vision board and have them on a different wall/board.

The only time you’d have a celebrity (or a person you look up to) on the vision board is when you have real plans to go and meet that person within the coming 12 months. Otherwise, they have nothing to do with your vision board.

3. Be as real as you can
Make sure that everything you put up there is as close as it can get to what you truly want. For an example, if you want to go on a holiday…research the exact hotel you want to stay at, the places you want to visit and have photos of those EXACT places/hotel room.

If it’s a car you want to buy, have a photo of the exact model/color of the car you would like to have. The more specific the better. If you’ve always wanted to write a book, design a simple book cover with your name on it and put it on a shelf of a bookstore photo.

So now you can see why a photo of a random hotel with a pool wouldn’t make sense to the universe.

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Pro Tip: make sure you have few quick small wins that you can have in a couple of months time. Then when you achieve them, the universe knows that you are serious about achieving the rest of them, because you’ve already done it a couple of times. Make winning a habit!

Do you see how this is very different to having a board that you would feel depressed when you look at them day in day out?

So…what do you have on your board that might be too difficult for the Universe to read?

Love,

V.

P.S. If you are a couple, get your partner to do it with you. They will love you for it. While this can be so much fun, this also becomes crucial in creating your life together. The only difference will be that there will be some stuff on the board that will be relevant individually as well as together.

Never Fail a New Year Resolution Ever Again…?

In this post I wanted to talk about New Year Resolutions …as I would love for you to feel like a winner every year (and not set another goal that you’ve already failed for like the last 4 years)

Yes…I know….if you’re thinking…’errm Vindya…….isn’t it a little too late to talk about New Year’s Resolution Setting?’

Well….I would rather talk about it now, when everyone is sober, back from excessive eating, drinking and partying (not forgetting the family drama), than when you are hungover and having a food baby.

So…..if you have already set some New Year’s Resolutions for 2019, fantastic!

This would be a great time to reflect back on them and validate that they are still great goals you want to work towards in the year. And put some real steps in place to get there.

And…..if you still haven’t……now would be a great time to set them the right way 🙂

So…here are the 5 common mistakes I see people making all the time when they set goals for the New Year:

1.       Making silly goals you don’t actually care about

Most of the time when we make new year’s resolutions,  we’re not in our optimal metal state to make them. Like…..having a glass of wine in one hand and a party popper in the other while talking to a complete stranger about skydiving naked.

Most of the time we haven’t thought this through. Hence, we end up setting goals every year and we end up failing ourselves.

We hardly stop to evaluate our entire life, the legacy we want to leave, figuring out what’s really been stopping us, before we set another goal. That way you only set goals that actually matters.

2.       Getting addicted to failing

The funny thing that happens if you have a track record of not achieving what you set to achieve the last few times is that our subconscious goes into a pattern of failure.

Because we failed the last few years, now secretly your subconscious believes that you’re not serious! You know what I’m talking about!

You know that when you say ‘I’m going to lose 10 kgs’, you secretly think ‘not gonna happen!’.

The only way to come out of this one is to set small goals that are not too ridiculous to achieve and not too easy either, so you actually achieve them.

When this happens a couple of times, then you can go on to setting bigger and better goals and you’d still get them no matter how ridiculous they may sound. But start getting into the habit of winning first.

3.       Not Having a System to Succeed

A common mistake that’s made is setting a goal and just assuming it’s going to happen. (law of attraction…. right?) Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

Example, if you want to fit into a smaller dress size, thinking that you’re going to eat healthy and exercise wouldn’t cut it. The best thing to do is to set-up a system for you to achieve it.

E.g. how much do you really wanna go down, what exact exercises would get you to the shape you want, what food types works best for your body type and lastly, how many times exactly should you go to the gym (or swim, jog or whatever else you do), how many cheat meals can you have, what days would be the exercise days, what time of the day, etc,

So that on a day to day basis, the only thing you need to do worry about is sticking to the gym day, sticking to the cheat meal day, sticking to the 3 times/week cardio days and without even realising it, you’ve gone down a couple of sizes already.

But make it a system that works for you and just focus on following the tiny steps in it.

4.       Your environment can work for you or against you

Having visual queues to make you succeed is as important as setting the system. This is where things like vision boards come into play.

Having a picture of a dress you would like to wear or photos of the exact hotel room you’d like to go on holiday for, a photo of the exact model of the car you want to buy helps your subconscious keep things real.

While this may seem silly, visual queues play a big part of everything we achieve in general. I’ve done a detailed post on this earlier. Having a supportive environment is crucial to your success.

E.g. coming from a family where everyone overeats increases the chances of being unhealthy and unfit. On the other hand, having a partner who’s a gym junkie, always helps you stay in the game for longer.

This may require you to either make changes to your current environment or even abandon the current one entirely and more into a new one.

So make sure you have your environment working for you and not against you.

5.       Overestimating Your Motivation

Motivation to get to any goal is great. But motivation by itself would not get you anywhere. It will only get you so far.

This is where you need to adjust all your habits/lifestyle and when you do something for at least 30 days, you have a better chance of achieving your goal even at times that you don’t feel very motivated.

Let’s be honest, even a gym junkie has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to the gym. Even a workaholic has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to work.

But you do it, out of habit and because it’s about WHO YOU ARE as a person. So redefine who you are with related to the goal and nothing will be able to stop you.

6.       Taking Celebrations for Granted

This is such a simple concept that we overlook all the time. But celebrating small wins is a way we can give a pat on the back and have something we can look forward to along the way rather than wait for 365 days to celebrate our big goal. So why not, set some small milestones that you can look forward to?

Like go to your favourite junk food restaurant when you stick to the system for 3 months, go for a massage when you stick to doing a video a day for 1 month, or whatever that makes you happy. This way, you always have something to look forward to and celebrate and give that extra boost of confidence and motivation.

Bonus Tip: Be aware of goals that are a means to an end. As these kinds of goals could get you into a lot of trouble in the long run if you’re not aware of them.

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There it is. Alright…I know I said 5, but I couldn’t help writing the 6th.

That is all for now. There’s so much more I can talk about goal setting, but I think this gives you a good start for now without overwhelming too much.

Remember, start small and get into the habit of winning and in no time you would be winning every time.

(Know anyone who’s struggeling to keep up with their life goals? Please share this post. It’s free and damn good :))

XO,  💖💖
V.
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Are You A Mover & Shaker Or Are You Just A Talker?

Answer this question honestly: Are you a mover & shaker or are you just a talker?

I talk to lots of people on a regular basis. Every one of them wants to achieve something amazing. Start a business. Become a consultant. Earn more money. Do work they love AND get paid. Most of the time, it’s all talk.

Whatever their goal is, I invariably ask the question “How many people have you talked to this week that can help you get your goal?” Let alone this last year…

Here’s some of the answers I get:
Ahh, well none.
I just haven’t gotten around to it.
Or the worst one…
Well, I’ve been reading this book that’s going to show me how to get it.

Curiously, I then ask a few more questions:

How many people did you message on Facebook?
How many catch ups did you schedule?
How many coffees did you grab?
How much time did you spend scrolling through social media or watching Netflix?

If the answers to those questions are greater than the first (especially by a lot), we’ve got a problem.

Many people talk a big game, but when it comes to taking the necessary action to achieve their goals, something always comes up. They’re talkers. They’re interested in success, but not committed. There’s a BIG difference.

Take my client Sarah. When I started working with Sarah, she came to me with a big dream. She already knew exactly what she wanted to do. Her goal was to start her own consulting business, securing 6 figure government contracts and servicing A-players. Sarah was excited, enthusiastic and even though she was quite experienced in the public sector, she was overwhelmed with everything she THOUGHT she needed to do.

So I asked her, who are the people that would know EXACTLY what to do? She told me the names of a number of executives. A-players. Industry heavyweights. The kind of executives that make people sweat just walking into their office.

I said great! Now go talk to them.

“What!?”

Go talk to them.

“Vindya… I can’t just go ta…”

Go talk to them!

I could tell she was intimidated. The very moment I told her to go talk to them, her mind said NO WAY. She decided she couldn’t. She gave me every excuse in the book.

“No one will speak to me…. I’m nobody compared to these people.”

But I ONLY work with movers & shakers. And despite her excuses, Sarah IS a mover & shaker. That was one of the many reasons I took her on as a client. So I set her a challenge…

Send out 100 messages to 100 executives, asking for a quick chat.

I’d thrown her overboard, in stormy seas and told her to find her way back to shore. I was there in the lifeboat keeping a close eye on her, but in the rough water was exactly where she needed to be and a task she needed to do.

You don’t grow by reading books or by doing another course. You grow by getting out there, jumping into stormy seas (metaphorically) and doing what’s necessary. I knew she could do it. And it’s my job to get her to do the things she doesn’t want to do, in order for her to have the life she doesn’t already have.

So after sitting on my challenge for a week, she finally started sending messages. And even though she thought it was going to be a complete disaster, surprisingly (to her), the complete opposite occurred…

These executives, these A-players, these industry heavyweights that she thought were untouchable and unreachable, some of them actually said yes to talking with her. A number of them were HAPPY she reached out to them! All because she ASKED.

And after the first few nervous interviews, she calmed down and actually started enjoying herself. Acting like a total Pro. Did she know what was going to happen before sending those messages? No, all she had to do was send the messages. And THEN take the next step. Something Sarah thought was impossible, was now EASY.

See, It’s not about knowing every single step of the plan and in what order to take. It’s about taking THIS step. The first step. And you think about the next step when you get to it. Even the best business plans are made up.

So, the results? From those 100 messages, 79 either said no or didn’t get back to her. 21 said yes. 21! And because of that, she received a serious advantage, insider information and knew EXACTLY what to do next with her business.

Now, a question for you…

Are you ready to be a mover & shaker? Do you have a big dream you want to accomplish, one that looks impossible? A dream everyone else says you’ll never achieve, but deep down, on some level, you know it’s exactly what you were meant for. If so, you need to become the person capable of achieving your goals and dreams, taking things to the next level and crushing your old standards.

People don’t just ‘talk’ about their goals and dreams and achieve them. They transform themselves into a mover & shaker and they are PROPELLED to their goals and dreams, creating an exponential life.

Is it hard? Yes.
Is it going to suck at times? Probably.
Is it worth it? Absolutely.

Truth is, if you don’t transform yourself into a mover & shaker and go after your dreams, you’re really only lying to yourself. And in 5.. 10.. 20 years time, you’ll wake up from your dream wishing you had the courage to start.

However, if you’re ready to become a mover & shaker and take the first step… I have good news!

Hi my name is Vindya Vee and I’m a High-Performance Coach who works with industry Heavyweights, A-Players and Movers & Shakers.

I’m opening my doors for a strictly limited time and offering a 90-minute coaching session to 3 extraordinary women who dream of creating an empowering, EXPONENTIAL life. The best part, it’s free!

Here’s what you’ll discover:

How to plan, execute and achieve ALL your goals and dreams
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This free strategy session has helped more than 51 women make their quantum leap just in the last 6 months alone and has the power and potential to do the same for you.

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It’s a new world out there today and I can give you the tools to make your quantum leap and have the same advantage as A-Players, industry heavyweights and Movers & Shakers – however – if you do nothing, please remember, in 5 years’ time when you’re exactly where you are today, playing a smaller game and beating yourself up for it, that I did warn you.

WARNING: Before you apply for your free strategy session you must understand that this is NOT for everyone. This is not for ‘talkers’, people just ‘interested’ in achieving their goals and dreams and people who don’t want to do anything. If that’s the case go renew your Netflix subscription instead.

However, if you know what you want to achieve, you’re COMMITTED to pursuing your dreams, and you’re ready to become a Mover & Shaker, then apply for your FREE strategy session now. By the way, I recommend you apply quickly, I only have a limited amount of spots available each month and they always fill up fast.

To your success,

– V

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Are You ‘Getting Ready’ To Pull The Trigger?

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Are you ‘getting ready’ to pull the trigger?

One thing that fascinates me is all the ‘things’ people create that delays taking the the first step. Example: Someone wants to create a new product or service for their business, then they do everything BUT create a new product or service for their business.

You create all these ‘things’ to not do the one thing you actually want to.

You check your emails (for the 100th time).
You schedule weekend and weekday catch ups.
You check social media (I can hear some of you say…..’it’s for business!’).
You change the title of a blog post from size 14 to 16.
You relax, watch Netflix and say you’ve earned it.

This is called procrastination. It’s a learned strategy. Created from your behaviour and turned into a habit. And just like any habit, you can override it and learn a new one.

Just a few days ago, in the middle of a powerful conversation with one of my amazing clients, I came across this exact scenario I see time and time again. He was ‘getting ready’. And he’d been getting ready for over 6 months, making his product perfect. He wanted to get it just right.

But if you look under the surface, the real reasons are obvious:

The fear your ideas will not be liked by anyone.
The fear you’ll be judged and laughed at for your ideas.
(and if the above two are true) The fear you’re not good enough.

And guess what? All great creators, business owners and high performers go through this. The immense emotional and mental roller coaster takes over. And as a result, we become control freaks, perfectionists and procrastinators. We start making excuses, sit on the fence and think about pulling the trigger.

Some people NEVER launch, regardless of how great their product or service is. That’s why the graveyard is the richest place on earth, but I’ll get to that soon.

I know great people sitting on amazing ideas and products that would change people’s lives, bringing them so much joy. But the fears keep them stuck in place, like a deer in headlights.

Does this sound familiar? If so, here’s an analogy that will straighten things up:

You have a jug full of water…
and in the distant you see a group of people completely dehydrated…
They can barely move.
There’s no one else to help them…
But YOU have a jug… of water!
And you know you can help them!
You get excited!…
But then, what do you do?
You think….
’Do I look ok?…’
‘Am I good enough to be offering this water to them?’…
‘Would they like me for offering them water?’…
‘What if they laugh?’
‘Maybe I should draw a flower on it so that it looks cool!’…

And while you think all of this to yourself… guess what? They’ve all met their end! Yep.

And you didn’t even get the chance to offer them the water. Why? Because you were too busy doubting yourself. Sitting on the fence. Creating ‘things’ to do.

Here’s the kicker:

It’s not about you. It was always about them!

It’s not about how you look on camera. It’s about what you can do for them!

It’s not about how you sound. It’s about what results you can get for them!

It’s about how your ideas, products or service that can change their life!

And this is why the graveyard is the richest place on Earth. In the graveyard you’ll find all the ideas, all the products and all the services that were never created.

All the paintings that were never painted.
All the inventions that were never created.
All the businesses ideas that were never launched.

All because someone was too busy sitting on the fence, making excuses to not pull the trigger.

Now… A question for you…?

Have you had enough of sitting on the fence? Have you had enough of creating ‘things’ to do, procrastinating and ‘getting ready’ to pull the trigger? Are you ready to take your business to the next level, create a new product or a new service AND create the life deep down you know you want?

If you are, you’ll need to change your internal strategies, behaviours and habits. Because your current ones have kept you stuck in place. No doubt they got you to where you are today, but I promise you, they will not take you to where you crave to be….

You need new strategies, new behaviours and new habits to become the person who is capable of launching new ideas, taking things to the next level, creating a new product or pitching an idea (and look the unknown dead in the eye and know that no matter what…you will win).

People don’t stay as they are and just create an Empowering, EXPONENTIAL Life… They change their strategies, behaviours and habits which propels them to an Exciting, Extraordinary Life.

Does it work? Yes.

Is it hard? Yes.

Is it worth it? 100%.

The truth is, if you don’t pull the trigger you’ll never know how much you could achieve with your life.

If you don’t change your strategies, behaviours and habits now, all your ideas, all your hopes and all your dreams will end up in the graveyard. All because you couldn’t take the first step.

Turn your ideas and dreams into reality. Take the first step. Pull the trigger.

Cheering for ya.

– V

🤫 The Secret To Building A Team That Would Decimate The Competition 🤫

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You might think that hiring the best talent is hard. Keeping the best talent is harder.

For many years I personally have built my own high performing teams and coached leaders to build their own and it takes more than knowing the “leadership styles” to do that.

A lot of business owners and leaders I talk to have issues with talent retention. It’s one of the things that cost a business the most, given how much money, time and energy is spent on acquiring, training, managing and compensating.

💡A leader is as good as the team he/she leads. 💡

Recently, I was listening to Jeff Hoffman (founder of Priceline, Black Sky Entertainment & ColorJar, just to name a few) and he said something that was so profound, something I’ve been doing for years that made my teams the best.

On the day Priceline was sold, Jeff realised that not one person in the company had ever quit. Since this sounded crazy, Jeff asked some of his employees why they never leave, which is unheard of!

🤫So…what’s the secret? 🤫

99.9% of companies hire employees, after reviewing the resume, having an interview, explaining the values of the company, job description, etc and if the person can do the job, we give them money.

So that we can use that person, for his/her skills, to work and work and work so we can to get our goals, KPIs, our dreams, the beach house, the boat, (you name it). It’s always about the us, the employer.

Now I can hear some of you going “Well….isn’t that a great deal?? Besides, we also provide a great working space, ‘flexible working arrangements’ and pilates classes (or something along those lines).”

Nope! Because if it was, you wouldn’t have so much churn & have issues with great people leaving you.

Care about their dreams and they’ll care about yours. 

Let’s be honest, no employee cares about the KPIs, performance reviews, yearly goals, think tanks, and especially not your dreams.

It sounds selfish, but that’s the truth. What they DO care about are their dreams and goals in life and feeling fulfilled. It’s human nature.

💡And money is only a small part of it.

Some of the highest performing companies I’ve seen offer no bonuses, extra benefits or great working spaces.

But what they do offer is the leadership team putting a little more thought and effort into understanding what makes their employees get out of bed and come to work.

What makes them tick, what dreams they have and when they get them, they are forever in debt to you.

This is the gold for any manager.

And anyone who refuses to understand this is going to have a hard time keeping great talent.

💬💬‘Hire the best talent, build a team with them, get out of their way to do their job and treat them with compassion and respect’ – Jeff Hoffman

Create a culture where every manager cares about their team and know the individuals at a human level and you will start seeing miracles.

💡 Get to know them as human beings who have a life beyond work and they’ll show they care, beyond what you pay them.

For those of you who think ‘I wish things were simpler and I wish my people would just listen to me when I command just because I say so!’…

Well….tough luck!
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This is no longer the industrial age where you can measure performance based on the number of items they produced. This is the age where a leader with the best high performing, creative talent wins the race.

The difference between you and your competitor is that they have and they know how to keep the talent that will take them into the next century, while you complain and make excuses as to why the way things were done in the last century shouldn’t change.

So by all means, if you want to stay a dinosourus and become extinct, keep doing what you’ve been doing till now and don’t expect any miracles to happen.

🎖️🎖️You people are your competitive edge.
It’s no longer about employees who work the longest hours (hard work vs unproductive work), how fast they work, how many hours their bum is on the seat or who’s ready to nod their head when you want them to.

🏆🏆 But it’s about the stars who would get you the competitive edge you need to have, to thrive in this changing landscape of business.

🔊 To listen to the fascinating story about Jeff and how he leads and the amazing things he’s accomplished, I highly encourage going and having a listen to this keynote.

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😱 What do you do when Fear paralyse you in front of a tough decision? 😱

This is a question I get asked from my clients all the time and I thought it would be beneficial to everybody if I did a post on it.

Let’s be honest, when you are in business for yourself, battling fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being judged (you name it!) are just a regular phenomenon. Sometimes you have trouble sleeping because of this.

As much as we would like to get rid of it, so that we can be well on our way to making them big goals a reality, it’s just not gonna happen. (sorry…did I disappoint ya there?)

So, at this stage we deal with this in one of two ways.
⚔️ Go into battle like a soldier are power through (this in my opinion works, but super hard to do and you have a terrible time doing it)
🤒 Curl up into a ball on the couch, go to sleep and pretend that this would go away by the time you wake up. (I personally have done this myself a couple of times and I know you have too 😊)

And neither of these are ideal and in the long run, they are going to burn you out. But what if instead, you have a way to battle it fast and effectively too. Instead of getting rid of it we trick it and work around it to get to where we want to get to.

WAIT…. WHAT? 
🔭UNDERTAND: The whole reason why any kind of fear comes to your mind is a protection mechanism that your subconscious has developed over thousands of years. Humans are naturally programmed to go into fight or flight mode as soon as we are presented with unfamiliar, foreign, unknown, uncomfortable situations.

The brain cannot differentiate between real danger (like a lion walking in front of you) and danger we’ve created in our mind.

🤯 🤯So, as a result of it, we react to EVERYTHING the same way. (I know! It’s shitty! But, that’s what we’ve gotta deal with) And this is your brain’s way of saying that something’s off and you’ve overlooked a potential threat.

Once you’ve understood and acknowledged the situation, the next part is all about putting your subconscious to rest by working through possible scenarios that could happen and how we are going to deal with them when they do.

🎆 So, here are the steps to follow that would make your life much easier moving forward. On a piece of paper write the following (handwriting helps)
[Keep in mind the decision/situation that you are fearful of]

 Check to see whether there is some real danger.
Well…..do you see a lion or a tiger around you? (If yes, RUN!!!, If no, just chill 🙏)
 What could be the worst-case scenarios? (write all of them)
 For each and every worse-case Scenario, what can I do to prevent them from happening?
 For each and every worst-case Scenario, if it happens how can I recover from it?
 What might be the benefits of an attempt or partial success?
 (divide the page into 3 columns) What will I miss out on if I do nothing?
a. In 6 months
b. In 1 year
c. In 3 years
That’s it!

🎆When you write this down. You are sending a signal to your subconscious mind (the one that’s doing the worrying for us) that I understand what the fear is about, I acknowledge the situation and I’ve already got a plan in place. So just chill!

🎆Now every time after this, when the same fear comes up about that decision/situation, think back to the plan you wrote down. And immediately you’d feel calm.
If something is keeping you up at night, this would be a god-send. This has come to my rescue and my clients many times.

I hope this helps and feel free to let me know if you have any questions.
Comment or PM with any questions or would like to know more…

Now…go break a leg!!! 🎆🎆🎆

💌 -With all my love- 💌

V.

The Fastest Way to Living A Fulfilled Life

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

A few years ago, before starting the journey I’m on right now, I once had a good-paying corporate job, smashing goal after goal and going up the ranks like there’s no tomorrow. People around me said that I would go places. And that, I did.

But not in the way others had predicted.

One day I woke up and asked myself “Is this It? Is this really all there to it?”. I was great at what I did (so I was told) but I struggled to see myself doing it for the rest of my life. Something was missing. But at the time, I couldn’t tell what it was.

However, now that I know better, it dawned on me that the word I was looking for back then was “Fulfilment.” 

How Can Something So Important As Fulfilment Get Past Me?

Fulfillment, a feeling so strange yet so important. Something we strive to find but still ironically neglected because we are too busy being busy.

Some of you may beg to differ, constantly denying the sense of dissatisfaction you feel with your current job or life by saying things like “it doesn’t just put food on the table and besides, I’m good at it ” or “I’m lucky to even have a decent job, others wear their bodies out earning scraps.” While I empathize with your sentiments, having thought the same things when I was in your shoes, have you ever thought that there might be something else that you’d be even greater at, that would make the IMPACT that you’d always wanted to make in the world, earns the same amount of money and feel fulfilled at the same time?

Let me tickle your brain a little. Say, you’ve finally had a great weekend off work – no overtime, no extra shifts. You used it to spend time with the family, taking a trip to the beach, going shopping, and whatever else you thought would be nice to do. But then, Sunday evening arrives.

What feeling do you get when you think of going to work the next morning? Do you feel excited and think “OMG. I can’t wait till tomorrow!” Or, do you feel drained of energy, that catching a bug, getting the mumps, or any other kind of painful, pathetic reason would be much, much better if it would mean extending your weekend for another day. If you’re like me, who falls perfectly in the second category, then you’ve got a serious case of what I call The Monday Sickness.

What Causes Monday Sickness & Why It’s A Sign of Your Life Ending

Monday sickness; oh, what a dreadful affliction! I did not like it and I bet that right now, your feelings resonate with mine. Just when you finally think Monday’s about to end, your hopes of Tuesday getting any better gets crushed, the moment you wake up with the same feeling of dread eating away at you. That’s when you come to realize that it isn’t just Monday or Tuesday that makes you feel like that. The same feeling burdens you on Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays. Let’s just say you feel it every day of every week, every year, till the day you die (or a few years before that)! Talk about something that lasts a lifetime!

I realized this at a much later time before it was too late, that I was pushing this dreadful feeling into the back of my mind until I was a master at it.

So, if you ask me what had caused it – the answer is simple.

I WAS NOT FULFILLED.

I grinded for 40 hours (sometimes more) every week in order to enjoy the two days off I have during the weekend. I worked 48 weeks per year so that I get to do stuff that I really love for 4 weeks. I was sacrificing 92% of my time – my life – just to live a little bit better with what little time I had left to do things I REALLY valued most.

But then, I stopped. I realized that no one or no-thing ever had power over me. Even if I jumped on a train to find my destiny in Norway, no one will stop me. And no one can – even if they tried. It was time to let go of my fears. I was the master of my fate and only I knew how to live my life. So I started to ask myself these questions:

  • Is this how I want to spend the rest of my life?

My answer was NO.

  • Will I ever find fulfillment in what I currently do?

It’s possible but highly improbable.

  • How do I flip the coin? How do I turn the tables?

 I already knew the answer.

  • Am I ready to have fun 48 weeks a year and feel like I’m only working for 4?

You bet I am.

 

And it changed my life forever. You can probably guess the insane cascade of events that came after. I can place a good bet people had called me crazy, stupid, or even mentally retarded at some point. And I can’t blame them. Looking back now, what I did back then was downright ridiculous. I quit a well paid job, relinquished what authority I’ve built over the years, and went on a journey to find myself. You must be thinking, “No way! I thought that only happened in movies!” But, it really did happened to me. You’d be surprised at the strength of your own conviction.

I can tell you about what I did, how I did it, and what lessons I learned from that journey but I’m afraid one article cannot contain the richness of the experiences I’ve had – so let’s save it for another day. All I can say is that everything worked out exactly as I hoped for (with a few bumps on the road of course). And now I’m having more fun than I ever could’ve imagined. I found exactly what fulfilled my life and it made me all the more merrier and richer.

Now, I’m on a mission. A mission to find people who were once like me. Caged in, trapped, and empty. I made it my life’s advocacy to share my story hoping that the right ears get to hear my message.

Along my journey, I came across a book written by Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients and kept them company on the last 12 weeks of their lives. She would often ask her patients about their lives’ biggest regrets. If there’s anything at all they would like to redo, given the chance. Bronnie talked about the phenomenal clarity of vision people would gain at the end of their lives. It’s all in the book – along with other common themes she observed in the course of their conversations.

The first thought that came to my mind as I unravelled the contents of the book was why people keep realizing things too late. I mean, why do I have to wait until I’m lying on my death bed to realize what I actually wanted to do with my life? When by that time, there’s hardly anything I can do about it anymore?

Why don’t I ask life’s most important questions now?

If you died tomorrow, which one of these regrets do you think you’d have?

  1. I wish I’ve had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so much.
  3. I wish I’ve had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish I gave more value to my family
  6. I wish I worked for something I find purpose in.
  7. I wish I asserted myself better.
  8. I wish I didn’t let public opinion get the best of me.
  9. I wish I lived more carefree
  10. I wish I had let myself be happier.

A part of what I do today is working with highly successful individuals who know that right now, they are nowhere near where they should be – people who know that they are meant for something much greater than what they have already achieved. They believe that in order to break through barriers, they have to play a much bigger game.

YOU are one of these special people.

And my role is to create a strategy that gets you to the other side of that barrier – faster than you ever thought possible. By combining what you think you want in life with what truly fulfils you, great change happens.

By taking away the things that hinder you from truly actualizing the person you are destined to be, you become unstoppable. And that’s when true magic happens.

After all, this isn’t about me. I’ve already found a good story to tell.

This is all going to be about you and others like you. Living a life more cruel than dying – a life of regret. Now, do you desire to keep living on like that?

It’s your call.



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

XOXO

 

V.