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Never Fail a New Year Resolution Ever Again…?

In this post I wanted to talk about New Year Resolutions …as I would love for you to feel like a winner every year (and not set another goal that you’ve already failed for like the last 4 years)

Yes…I know….if you’re thinking…’errm Vindya…….isn’t it a little too late to talk about New Year’s Resolution Setting?’

Well….I would rather talk about it now, when everyone is sober, back from excessive eating, drinking and partying (not forgetting the family drama), than when you are hungover and having a food baby.

So…..if you have already set some New Year’s Resolutions for 2019, fantastic!

This would be a great time to reflect back on them and validate that they are still great goals you want to work towards in the year. And put some real steps in place to get there.

And…..if you still haven’t……now would be a great time to set them the right way 🙂

So…here are the 5 common mistakes I see people making all the time when they set goals for the New Year:

1.       Making silly goals you don’t actually care about

Most of the time when we make new year’s resolutions,  we’re not in our optimal metal state to make them. Like…..having a glass of wine in one hand and a party popper in the other while talking to a complete stranger about skydiving naked.

Most of the time we haven’t thought this through. Hence, we end up setting goals every year and we end up failing ourselves.

We hardly stop to evaluate our entire life, the legacy we want to leave, figuring out what’s really been stopping us, before we set another goal. That way you only set goals that actually matters.

2.       Getting addicted to failing

The funny thing that happens if you have a track record of not achieving what you set to achieve the last few times is that our subconscious goes into a pattern of failure.

Because we failed the last few years, now secretly your subconscious believes that you’re not serious! You know what I’m talking about!

You know that when you say ‘I’m going to lose 10 kgs’, you secretly think ‘not gonna happen!’.

The only way to come out of this one is to set small goals that are not too ridiculous to achieve and not too easy either, so you actually achieve them.

When this happens a couple of times, then you can go on to setting bigger and better goals and you’d still get them no matter how ridiculous they may sound. But start getting into the habit of winning first.

3.       Not Having a System to Succeed

A common mistake that’s made is setting a goal and just assuming it’s going to happen. (law of attraction…. right?) Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

Example, if you want to fit into a smaller dress size, thinking that you’re going to eat healthy and exercise wouldn’t cut it. The best thing to do is to set-up a system for you to achieve it.

E.g. how much do you really wanna go down, what exact exercises would get you to the shape you want, what food types works best for your body type and lastly, how many times exactly should you go to the gym (or swim, jog or whatever else you do), how many cheat meals can you have, what days would be the exercise days, what time of the day, etc,

So that on a day to day basis, the only thing you need to do worry about is sticking to the gym day, sticking to the cheat meal day, sticking to the 3 times/week cardio days and without even realising it, you’ve gone down a couple of sizes already.

But make it a system that works for you and just focus on following the tiny steps in it.

4.       Your environment can work for you or against you

Having visual queues to make you succeed is as important as setting the system. This is where things like vision boards come into play.

Having a picture of a dress you would like to wear or photos of the exact hotel room you’d like to go on holiday for, a photo of the exact model of the car you want to buy helps your subconscious keep things real.

While this may seem silly, visual queues play a big part of everything we achieve in general. I’ve done a detailed post on this earlier. Having a supportive environment is crucial to your success.

E.g. coming from a family where everyone overeats increases the chances of being unhealthy and unfit. On the other hand, having a partner who’s a gym junkie, always helps you stay in the game for longer.

This may require you to either make changes to your current environment or even abandon the current one entirely and more into a new one.

So make sure you have your environment working for you and not against you.

5.       Overestimating Your Motivation

Motivation to get to any goal is great. But motivation by itself would not get you anywhere. It will only get you so far.

This is where you need to adjust all your habits/lifestyle and when you do something for at least 30 days, you have a better chance of achieving your goal even at times that you don’t feel very motivated.

Let’s be honest, even a gym junkie has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to the gym. Even a workaholic has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to work.

But you do it, out of habit and because it’s about WHO YOU ARE as a person. So redefine who you are with related to the goal and nothing will be able to stop you.

6.       Taking Celebrations for Granted

This is such a simple concept that we overlook all the time. But celebrating small wins is a way we can give a pat on the back and have something we can look forward to along the way rather than wait for 365 days to celebrate our big goal. So why not, set some small milestones that you can look forward to?

Like go to your favourite junk food restaurant when you stick to the system for 3 months, go for a massage when you stick to doing a video a day for 1 month, or whatever that makes you happy. This way, you always have something to look forward to and celebrate and give that extra boost of confidence and motivation.

Bonus Tip: Be aware of goals that are a means to an end. As these kinds of goals could get you into a lot of trouble in the long run if you’re not aware of them.

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There it is. Alright…I know I said 5, but I couldn’t help writing the 6th.

That is all for now. There’s so much more I can talk about goal setting, but I think this gives you a good start for now without overwhelming too much.

Remember, start small and get into the habit of winning and in no time you would be winning every time.

(Know anyone who’s struggeling to keep up with their life goals? Please share this post. It’s free and damn good :))

XO,  💖💖
V.
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🤫 The Secret To Building A Team That Would Decimate The Competition 🤫

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You might think that hiring the best talent is hard. Keeping the best talent is harder.

For many years I personally have built my own high performing teams and coached leaders to build their own and it takes more than knowing the “leadership styles” to do that.

A lot of business owners and leaders I talk to have issues with talent retention. It’s one of the things that cost a business the most, given how much money, time and energy is spent on acquiring, training, managing and compensating.

💡A leader is as good as the team he/she leads. 💡

Recently, I was listening to Jeff Hoffman (founder of Priceline, Black Sky Entertainment & ColorJar, just to name a few) and he said something that was so profound, something I’ve been doing for years that made my teams the best.

On the day Priceline was sold, Jeff realised that not one person in the company had ever quit. Since this sounded crazy, Jeff asked some of his employees why they never leave, which is unheard of!

🤫So…what’s the secret? 🤫

99.9% of companies hire employees, after reviewing the resume, having an interview, explaining the values of the company, job description, etc and if the person can do the job, we give them money.

So that we can use that person, for his/her skills, to work and work and work so we can to get our goals, KPIs, our dreams, the beach house, the boat, (you name it). It’s always about the us, the employer.

Now I can hear some of you going “Well….isn’t that a great deal?? Besides, we also provide a great working space, ‘flexible working arrangements’ and pilates classes (or something along those lines).”

Nope! Because if it was, you wouldn’t have so much churn & have issues with great people leaving you.

Care about their dreams and they’ll care about yours. 

Let’s be honest, no employee cares about the KPIs, performance reviews, yearly goals, think tanks, and especially not your dreams.

It sounds selfish, but that’s the truth. What they DO care about are their dreams and goals in life and feeling fulfilled. It’s human nature.

💡And money is only a small part of it.

Some of the highest performing companies I’ve seen offer no bonuses, extra benefits or great working spaces.

But what they do offer is the leadership team putting a little more thought and effort into understanding what makes their employees get out of bed and come to work.

What makes them tick, what dreams they have and when they get them, they are forever in debt to you.

This is the gold for any manager.

And anyone who refuses to understand this is going to have a hard time keeping great talent.

💬💬‘Hire the best talent, build a team with them, get out of their way to do their job and treat them with compassion and respect’ – Jeff Hoffman

Create a culture where every manager cares about their team and know the individuals at a human level and you will start seeing miracles.

💡 Get to know them as human beings who have a life beyond work and they’ll show they care, beyond what you pay them.

For those of you who think ‘I wish things were simpler and I wish my people would just listen to me when I command just because I say so!’…

Well….tough luck!
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This is no longer the industrial age where you can measure performance based on the number of items they produced. This is the age where a leader with the best high performing, creative talent wins the race.

The difference between you and your competitor is that they have and they know how to keep the talent that will take them into the next century, while you complain and make excuses as to why the way things were done in the last century shouldn’t change.

So by all means, if you want to stay a dinosourus and become extinct, keep doing what you’ve been doing till now and don’t expect any miracles to happen.

🎖️🎖️You people are your competitive edge.
It’s no longer about employees who work the longest hours (hard work vs unproductive work), how fast they work, how many hours their bum is on the seat or who’s ready to nod their head when you want them to.

🏆🏆 But it’s about the stars who would get you the competitive edge you need to have, to thrive in this changing landscape of business.

🔊 To listen to the fascinating story about Jeff and how he leads and the amazing things he’s accomplished, I highly encourage going and having a listen to this keynote.

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