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Engineer to Internationally Renowned Musician and Actor

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How does one go from a career in engineering to becoming an internationally renowned singer and actor?

My guest today is, Matt Westin from Pittsburgh, PA; who gave up a promising career as an engineer to be a country musician and actor. Starting from his very first single, his songs hit various international charts and he also will star as Johnny Cash in an upcoming film production.

He shares:

  1. How Matt went from having a career in Engineering to an Internationally renowned singer/actor?
  2. How to follow your passion even when logic goes against it?
  3. How a personal crisis could end up being a blessing in disguise
  4. What it takes to follow your passion (a fact that people rarely reveal)
  5. How your hidden genius can make you stand-out even in a crowded market
  6. 3 Keys to making your extraordinary project a success
  7. What to do if you can’t make your passion your job

and…as always…much more…

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About The Guest

Matt Westin

Internationally Renowned Singer/Actor

Hailing from Pittsburgh, PA, Matt Westin’s first single, “Our Redneck of the Woods” reached the IndieWorld Country chart and the European Country Music Association charts. Matt was also on the Top 200 International Country Artists chart. His second single, “Farm Town”also received international airplay and charting. Matt is the 2018 International Music and Entertainment Association Male Country Artist of the Year. He recently appeared in the October 10, 2018 issue of Billboard Magazine as an Emerging Artist. His current single, “You Leave Me No Choice” is charting on the New Music Weekly and Airplay Today country charts. His album, “Legacy” is dedicated to the memory of his late father. Matt gave up a promising career as an engineer to be a country musician and actor. He will star as Johnny Cash in an upcoming film production

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



A Second Chance At Life – Hollywood, Acting & Mental Wellbeing

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Have you ever wondered what it takes to become a Hollywood star?

Today my guest, Eric Morris, One of the most recognized acting instructors in the world (launched several Hollywood careers including Jonny Depp, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jack Nicholson) joins me to shares his expertise about what makes good actors become great. He shares stories about;

1. How he ended up helping launch careers of stars like Jonny Depp, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jack Nicholson.
2. How acting can help overcome challenges, negative experiences & trauma faced by all human beings
3. The difference between stars who makes it in Hollywood and who don’t
4. Other surprising famous professionals that uses acting techniques to stand-out from the competition. (this was a big ah ha for me)
5. Untold stories about the journey it’s taken big stars to make it in a profession with a lot of uncertainty and no guarantees
6. What it takes to be successful in any craft in the long-run
7. The one quality that made Eric to become one of the best Acting teachers in the world
8. A different way to look at actors and acting as a profession that is different to the common believes that makes good actors great
9. How to use acting techniques to help change your self-image, confidence and relationships.
10. The one thing that Eric has done over the past 6 decades that’s kept him growing and on top.

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About The Guest

Hollywood Acting Trainer, Author

One of the most recognized acting instructors in the world, Morris’ Career spans over sixty years with a series of eight books on the Eric Morris Acting System. As an actor, Morris has an accomplished portfolio of credits from stage, network television and major motion film. As a mentor, he has launched several Hollywood careers including Jonny Depp, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jack Nicholson.

Eric Morris has been teaching his unique acting system in Los Angeles, New York, and around the world for fifty-three years. His approach to acting is to teach actors “how not to act” but to become “professional experiencers.” While his techniques are solidly rooted in “the method” he has gone far beyond the original precepts of the Stanislavski system and so many of the practitioners of that approach. Eric has innovated a complete system that fulfills all the obligations of dramatic material. His system includes over three hundred exercises to liberate the actor to be “free to act.”

As an actor and instructor for almost sixty years, Eric has created hundreds of exercises and techniques designed to eliminate the obstacles, dependencies, traps, and habits that block the actor from functioning from an authentic, organic place. While developing his acting system, Morris discovered that his exercises can also benefit the participant’s mental health and well being.

In his 9th book “A Second Chance at Life Eric transforms his proprietary acting method into a therapeutic tool. By using the exercises in the book, readers can identify and repair their trauma, learn to express their emotions freely and enjoy a life of happiness and success.

5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top



How Ordinary People Can Do Extraordinary Things!



If you dream of doing extraordinary things but every now and then, you ask the question “Who Do I Think I Am?”…don’t worry…..it’s perfectly normal.

So today, I want to share with you a podcast I did recently with April Seifert on her  great Podcast Women Inspired.

In our conversation we talk about;

  • How we underestimate ourselves & what we are capable of achieving
  • The impact of other people’s words on our own ability to set and achieve goals
  • Imposter syndrome and HOW TO TAME IT!
  • Practical tips for playing bigger

Have a listen and comment below.

What has been your biggest insight from this episode?

Love,

V.

How Successful People Jump Leaps & Bounds Before You Know It

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Time and time again I come across very smart people who would like to take their current role in their career to the next stage or double the income in their business, take on more responsibility, make a bigger impact, get more recognition, make more money …..you name it.

Most people come to me with very rigid lines in their mind about who they are, what they can and can’t do. And some of them even tell me that their challenge is that they need to be able to communicate better, write better emails, have more confidence, network more…and the list goes on.

As if they knew for sure that if they ‘did’ something different, they would have everything that they don’t have. Or if they stopped ‘doing’ some things, the challenges they are facing would go away.

And then they would be happier, have better people around them, be less stressed, take more vacations, make more money, make a bigger impact, etc.

So, the moment that they feel like something is missing their first idea is to upskill, do another course, a certification, a degree, work faster, work better, be more ‘productive’, manage time better, learn ‘persuasion’, “Win friends and influence people”, etc.

But very few people stop to ask themselves the question……

” What if I don’t have to ‘DO’ anything different?….”

“What if I’m not missing anything?”

“What if it’s about doing exactly the opposite of what I’ve been ‘DOING’ all this time….”

In fact…

What if it’s got less to do with doing…and more to do with how you are BEING?

Ahhhhhh……………

Yes…..

BEING!!!

What if it’s not another skills you need to pick or a course you need to do, another seminar that you have to go to….

But what if…just by shifting who you are being…..you challenges would go away….?

Everything that you want that you don’t have…would appear in front of you….

Everything that you don’t want to have in your life…..would just disappear like magic….

And every problem that you think you feel stuck in….would become unstuck…

Just…….what if?

This has been the basis of my work since I started my profession (sure… the skills, the tactics and the strategies play a part in it) and the very moment somebody realise this, their whole world changes.

But you have to be willing to open your eyes and look at the world from a different lens. And stop making excuses for the lens you are already wearing.

Because everything that you have in your life is because of the way you’re being right now. And everything that you don’t want in your life, is because you’re being in a way of attracting them.

So, before you think of taking another course, start another degree, or a certification….ask yourself….

What challenges do I wish would go away?

What goals have I been struggling to get to?

How am I being around these challenges?

Is it time to change the lens?



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

V.

P.S. Since it’s coming to the end of January 2019 already, if you still feel like you haven’t set yourself up to win, come join me and our community of extraordinary High Performers and let’s make this year an amazing one.

Got a difficult boss to deal with or a tough person to manage?

Since the industrial age, books had been written, trainings have been created and courses have been held on handling difficult people. Specially in the corporate set-up. There are lots of techniques among these that work to a great extent. However, I’ve heard of many cases and I personally know myself that none of these tactics have worked.

 

And 99% of the time it’s because of something that cannot be explained by logic, strategies and tactics. Yet, very few know about it.  The people who are aware of this are very successful at dealing with difficult, sensitive situations as well as have great awareness of themselves.

 

The reason why this cannot be explained using logic is because the root cause lies at a human level.

So let me tell you a story…

 

Once upon a time ago…in a far far away land…(just kidding)

 

Story 1

 

Once a highly talented professional came to me asking for help with his work. He felt like calling in sick every morning all because of one person: his manager… In his words ‘I feel like quitting everyday. I hate when she micromanages, it just drives me crazy. I think it’s time I quit’.

 

I’m sure we’ve all felt like this at one stage or another. While I felt for him putting up with this for 8 hours/day, 5 days a week, I needed to find out exactly what was happening. So through our conversation I found out she was keeping her fingers in the pie, at all times, just to meet her deadlines.

 

Unhealthy management style? Sure… But this was not the issue here. The issue lies in how he felt when she did this. And when I dug a little deeper I discovered the way his manager was acting made him feel untrustworthy, controlled and micro managed.

 

Something interesting about this professional was freedom was one of his highest values and her behaviour was triggering emotions from his childhood of not trustworthy, controlled and deep down feeling not good enough. So when he’d see her at work, he’d be angry, frustrated and anxious.

 

Maybe the manager was acting wrong, but regardless, the emotions being triggered had nothing to do with her. And the very moment he came to understand this, he became self-aware enough to create a strategy to deal with it.

 

Story 2

 

An Executive level manager once came to me with to complain about how a subordinate of his was super difficult to manage. He said he tried everything in the textbook and nothing seem to work!

 

The Executive manager was even considering letting her go because she’d been ‘told’ many times and still no improvement.

 

When I dug deeper (as I do!) it was clear the subordinate was not necessarily acting disrespectfully, but rather some of the things she did (for whatever the reason) the Executive was giving it the meaning ‘disrespectful’.

 

And not surprisingly….this wasn’t the first time someone had been acting this way…

 

It turned out, this subordinate’s behaviour was triggering a memory of people from his childhood! (crazy, right?)

 

And what was happening was, because this being a sensitive spot for the Executive, everytime someone behaved even remotely close to the behaviour he saw as a child, it brings back all the negative emotions he felt when he was a child.

 

Hence, ‘that person is disrespectful’!

 

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So what’s the point?

 

When we interact with other, even for a brief moment, we filter a lot of information we see, hear and feel through our past experiences, a lot even from childhood. And as a result, a lot of emotions get triggered even when they have no relevance.

 

Unless you are a very self aware person and have dealt with all of the baggage from the past (regardless how perfect you think your childhood was) it’s very easy to miss this.

 

‘So what do I do about this Vindya?’…

 

Well….have you encountered the same kind of scenario with different people from different teams or companies in the past? Think of a person you’ve had difficulty dealing with…

 

How do they make you feel?

What do they do to make you feel that way?

Are there patterns in behaviour?

Who from your past gave you the same negative feelings?

 

Please note that for you to do this, you have really dig deep into your psyche. I may make it sound easy as I’ve been doing what I do for years.

 

Some of the most mysterious cases gets resolved this way. While all tactics you’ve learned will make you a great professional, being aware of the emotional side would move you leaps and bounds.

 

So here’s the challenge I would like to leave you with…

 

What relationship do you have at work, in your business or at home, do you wish was easier?

 

And if you do change things around, how would that change things for you?

 

XOXO,

V.

P.S. If you’d like to know more, download free book ‘5 Secrets The Super Successful Use To Smash Through Glass Ceilings And Catapult Their Career To The Top’.

Never Fail a New Year Resolution Ever Again…?

In this post I wanted to talk about New Year Resolutions …as I would love for you to feel like a winner every year (and not set another goal that you’ve already failed for like the last 4 years)

Yes…I know….if you’re thinking…’errm Vindya…….isn’t it a little too late to talk about New Year’s Resolution Setting?’

Well….I would rather talk about it now, when everyone is sober, back from excessive eating, drinking and partying (not forgetting the family drama), than when you are hungover and having a food baby.

So…..if you have already set some New Year’s Resolutions for 2019, fantastic!

This would be a great time to reflect back on them and validate that they are still great goals you want to work towards in the year. And put some real steps in place to get there.

And…..if you still haven’t……now would be a great time to set them the right way 🙂

So…here are the 5 common mistakes I see people making all the time when they set goals for the New Year:

1.       Making silly goals you don’t actually care about

Most of the time when we make new year’s resolutions,  we’re not in our optimal metal state to make them. Like…..having a glass of wine in one hand and a party popper in the other while talking to a complete stranger about skydiving naked.

Most of the time we haven’t thought this through. Hence, we end up setting goals every year and we end up failing ourselves.

We hardly stop to evaluate our entire life, the legacy we want to leave, figuring out what’s really been stopping us, before we set another goal. That way you only set goals that actually matters.

2.       Getting addicted to failing

The funny thing that happens if you have a track record of not achieving what you set to achieve the last few times is that our subconscious goes into a pattern of failure.

Because we failed the last few years, now secretly your subconscious believes that you’re not serious! You know what I’m talking about!

You know that when you say ‘I’m going to lose 10 kgs’, you secretly think ‘not gonna happen!’.

The only way to come out of this one is to set small goals that are not too ridiculous to achieve and not too easy either, so you actually achieve them.

When this happens a couple of times, then you can go on to setting bigger and better goals and you’d still get them no matter how ridiculous they may sound. But start getting into the habit of winning first.

3.       Not Having a System to Succeed

A common mistake that’s made is setting a goal and just assuming it’s going to happen. (law of attraction…. right?) Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

Example, if you want to fit into a smaller dress size, thinking that you’re going to eat healthy and exercise wouldn’t cut it. The best thing to do is to set-up a system for you to achieve it.

E.g. how much do you really wanna go down, what exact exercises would get you to the shape you want, what food types works best for your body type and lastly, how many times exactly should you go to the gym (or swim, jog or whatever else you do), how many cheat meals can you have, what days would be the exercise days, what time of the day, etc,

So that on a day to day basis, the only thing you need to do worry about is sticking to the gym day, sticking to the cheat meal day, sticking to the 3 times/week cardio days and without even realising it, you’ve gone down a couple of sizes already.

But make it a system that works for you and just focus on following the tiny steps in it.

4.       Your environment can work for you or against you

Having visual queues to make you succeed is as important as setting the system. This is where things like vision boards come into play.

Having a picture of a dress you would like to wear or photos of the exact hotel room you’d like to go on holiday for, a photo of the exact model of the car you want to buy helps your subconscious keep things real.

While this may seem silly, visual queues play a big part of everything we achieve in general. I’ve done a detailed post on this earlier. Having a supportive environment is crucial to your success.

E.g. coming from a family where everyone overeats increases the chances of being unhealthy and unfit. On the other hand, having a partner who’s a gym junkie, always helps you stay in the game for longer.

This may require you to either make changes to your current environment or even abandon the current one entirely and more into a new one.

So make sure you have your environment working for you and not against you.

5.       Overestimating Your Motivation

Motivation to get to any goal is great. But motivation by itself would not get you anywhere. It will only get you so far.

This is where you need to adjust all your habits/lifestyle and when you do something for at least 30 days, you have a better chance of achieving your goal even at times that you don’t feel very motivated.

Let’s be honest, even a gym junkie has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to the gym. Even a workaholic has days that they ‘don’t feel like’ going to work.

But you do it, out of habit and because it’s about WHO YOU ARE as a person. So redefine who you are with related to the goal and nothing will be able to stop you.

6.       Taking Celebrations for Granted

This is such a simple concept that we overlook all the time. But celebrating small wins is a way we can give a pat on the back and have something we can look forward to along the way rather than wait for 365 days to celebrate our big goal. So why not, set some small milestones that you can look forward to?

Like go to your favourite junk food restaurant when you stick to the system for 3 months, go for a massage when you stick to doing a video a day for 1 month, or whatever that makes you happy. This way, you always have something to look forward to and celebrate and give that extra boost of confidence and motivation.

Bonus Tip: Be aware of goals that are a means to an end. As these kinds of goals could get you into a lot of trouble in the long run if you’re not aware of them.

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There it is. Alright…I know I said 5, but I couldn’t help writing the 6th.

That is all for now. There’s so much more I can talk about goal setting, but I think this gives you a good start for now without overwhelming too much.

Remember, start small and get into the habit of winning and in no time you would be winning every time.

(Know anyone who’s struggeling to keep up with their life goals? Please share this post. It’s free and damn good :))

XO,  💖💖
V.
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5 Fatal Mistakes You Must Avoid on The Route to A Successful and Fulfilling Career

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Recent research by Pew Research Center revealed 48% of women working in a male dominated STEM environment say ‘their gender has made it harder for them to succeed in their job.’ Being a woman also made it more difficult to secure a promotion. Fortune notes only 6.4% of Fortune 500 companies have a woman at the helm. With International

Women’s Day just passing by (March 8th), it’s timely to discuss how women can smash through the glass ceiling on route to a successful and fulfilling career at the top.

As much as I could write for days about the faux pas of forgetting your roots, not updating your skills, not setting clearly defined goals, clambering over others in an ambitious ploy to get ahead… and how these can be detrimental to achieving a successful, fulfilling career, I want to delve deeper, right down to those challenges not many people talk about.

You know, the ones that matter.

And when you throw ‘fulfilment’ into the mix… Well, many forget to consider life satisfaction early in their career, with the resultant later regret.

After six years in the corporate management realm and three as a high-performance coach, I’ve discovered there are some common threads, some familiar mistakes, that hold women back from achieving their impossible and a life they love.

What are they? I’m glad you asked!

1. Being Comfortable in the Grey Zone

It’s common to become so darn good and praised for something, that you settle right down into that comfortable space. This is a mistake many highly talented women make. When you perform at a significantly higher level than those around you and are constantly looked up to as the expert — the companies veritable bees knees — the push from your team can drop away. Those who can move you forward may be off leading other teams not beside you, egging you forward. When you are a high performer, this adulation can be addictive, although not constructive.
The higher up the ladder you climb, whether in your own business or another’s, the less constructive criticism is on offer. Those below you don’t want to risk retaliation, those above you are contented… After all, your work is at a high standard. Little do they know what you might be able to achieve, if you’re brutally honest with yourself.

While you may be an elite performer, ticking off targets and growing a good team, compared to playing at your full capacity, you’re treading water. In the long run, this will cause you to underperform.
So, what can you do about it?

The moment you realise what you do is no longer significantly challenging; the point at which you recognise you achieve set tasks efficiently leaving ample time to twiddle your thumbs, bored and under challenged, it is time to chase that next challenge and push your boundaries further. As they say, if you’re not growing you’re dying. It’s time to move forward and create a new legacy.

 

2. Your Mentor - The Be All and End All?

What is more damaging than not having a support network? Having the wrong kind of support.

While you know you are meant for something greater than your current position, your company may not realise… or even have the know-how to enable you to achieve it.

It is at this point many smart people seek out a mentor.

Sensible strategy!

However, there’s a catch. A mentor can only help you with something that s/he has done. They can only show you what they have achieved, given the circumstances they were working in. So, if you are reaching for a goal that somebody else has attained, this might be the best move. They can illuminate the best path forward for you, and support you as you progress.

But if you are one of the rare creatures, with an entrepreneurial heart and spark, who dream of following the path less travelled… even a path not yet created… this could either slow you down or jam you abruptly and unhappily on the wrong path. You need to find a high performance coach who will support you in chasing the unthinkable and encourage, guide and focus you on the best way to achieve the impossible.

If you wanna play a much bigger game, you need the right support network around you to challenge you, help you discover the secrets to break through previously unbroken barriers and do it (kind of) comfortably in your own skin.

This will determine how far you go.

 

3. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

The mindset harnessed, strategies followed, tactics used and people followed to get you here simply won’t get you there.

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them”
– Albert Einstein

Ok, so where you are now isn’t a problem per se, but Albert’s words clarify a truth. You are here because of your current thinking. To change, to achieve more, to explode from your current cocoon in a vivid array of accomplished colours, you need to grow and alter your mindset further.

As most would understand, you need a new set of skills to achieve something bigger, better and more fulfilling. But that’s where a lot of people stop.

And this will lead to a profound, potentially painful downfall.

Most of the time, in my experience, skill (or the ‘how to’) is the last element lacking. If you are chasing your next big thing and, after trying for a while you’re still not there, it’s because you haven’t quite achieved the right mindset. To explain in the simplest terms, the mindset you require at an employee level is completely different to being your own boss. An employee mindset in a business owners body is a sure fire way to failure.

This may sound like a fluffy topic, although the world of neuroplasticity and brain science shows it isn’t. And this single reason could explain why you haven’t got to where you want to, yet.
The incredible thing is, I’ve seen a two-second insight transform an entire outlook. This is how some elite-performing people have changed the world, sometimes overnight.
So, a crucial question to ask yourself honestly is, what beliefs do you hold that are getting in the way?

 

4. Ignoring Values That Stab You In The Back

Whether the desire is a new role, a pay rise or a specific client on the books, everything we do as humans is driven by deep rooted values. Most of the time these values are hidden, laying under the cover of subconsciousness, peddling the wheels that move the cogs of our actions. We cannot not see them when we look from above.

If you are not aware of these values, conflict will invariably arise. If I asked you now what values you hold, the chances that you would really know the deep-down true values that pedal those cogs are very slim.
Confronting? Yes! You might even be filled by a flurry of thoughts shouting, ‘She doesn’t know what she’s talking about?’ That’s ok too. Stick with me…

Let’s explore the true story of one of my past clients.

She was consciously driven to become incredibly successful in her field. She’d watched her family struggle financially when growing up, and didn’t want that for her own. Yet when she was a child, her parents often commented that, ‘successful people take advantage!’ In her case, she couldn’t permanently reach further than a certain level. Higher level success came, and with it, sufficient self-sabotage to pull her back down to where her hidden values thought she should be.
Gay Hendricks also talks about this in his book, The Big Leap.

It’s not uncommon.
The solution?

Firstly, understand your highest values before working you way up the ladder; the sooner the better. That way, you will enjoy your successes, have an easier path, and both get the very best from, and become your very best self.

Secondly, make sure you are acutely aware of any conflicting, competing values. Work on these before they do real, irrevocable harm.

Thirdly, if these values have been undermining your efforts and subverting your success, now is the time to deal with them.

 

5. Assuming It's A Straight Line

Accept and embrace the convoluted path to higher level success. See in the earlier days, there was less to lose. Less pay, pride, and position. As you rose to lofty ranks, the way down now appears perilous, full of dangers and deadly depths. So you take less risks in order to remain on top of your perch. However, it was the risks that previously reaped each new reward.

The bar for success is often higher each time you take on a new role or start a fresh project. This provides the opportunity to grow and develop, to craft a new and invigorated, expansive mindset.

It also offers the chance to settle right down into that comfortable space we talked about earlier, and pass the work, responsibility and blame onto others. This is a mistake common in the highly talented fraternity.

Failure to step out onto the ledge and take educated risks results in lost opportunities, or even worse, not realising your full potential.

And remember, whatever you did to get here will not get you there, especially when you crave greater things.
The solution?

Fall in love with the process. As with anything new, you sometimes have to suck for a while before competence kicks in. A step back may be needed to take 10 steps forward and leave an even greater legacy.

 



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

XOXO

 

V.