This is a question I get asked from my clients all the time and I thought it would be beneficial to everybody if I did a post on it.
Let’s be honest, when you are in business for yourself, battling fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being judged (you name it!) are just a regular phenomenon. Sometimes you have trouble sleeping because of this.
As much as we would like to get rid of it, so that we can be well on our way to making them big goals a reality, it’s just not gonna happen. (sorry…did I disappoint ya there?)
So, at this stage we deal with this in one of two ways.
⚔️ Go into battle like a soldier are power through (this in my opinion works, but super hard to do and you have a terrible time doing it)
🤒 Curl up into a ball on the couch, go to sleep and pretend that this would go away by the time you wake up. (I personally have done this myself a couple of times and I know you have too 😊)
And neither of these are ideal and in the long run, they are going to burn you out. But what if instead, you have a way to battle it fast and effectively too. Instead of getting rid of it we trick it and work around it to get to where we want to get to.
✨✨✨WAIT…. WHAT? ✨✨✨
🔭UNDERTAND: The whole reason why any kind of fear comes to your mind is a protection mechanism that your subconscious has developed over thousands of years. Humans are naturally programmed to go into fight or flight mode as soon as we are presented with unfamiliar, foreign, unknown, uncomfortable situations.
The brain cannot differentiate between real danger (like a lion walking in front of you) and danger we’ve created in our mind.
🤯 🤯So, as a result of it, we react to EVERYTHING the same way. (I know! It’s shitty! But, that’s what we’ve gotta deal with) And this is your brain’s way of saying that something’s off and you’ve overlooked a potential threat.
Once you’ve understood and acknowledged the situation, the next part is all about putting your subconscious to rest by working through possible scenarios that could happen and how we are going to deal with them when they do.
🎆 So, here are the steps to follow that would make your life much easier moving forward. On a piece of paper write the following (handwriting helps)
[Keep in mind the decision/situation that you are fearful of]
✅ Check to see whether there is some real danger.
Well…..do you see a lion or a tiger around you? (If yes, RUN!!!, If no, just chill 🙏)
✅ What could be the worst-case scenarios? (write all of them)
✅ For each and every worse-case Scenario, what can I do to prevent them from happening?
✅ For each and every worst-case Scenario, if it happens how can I recover from it?
✅ What might be the benefits of an attempt or partial success?
✅ (divide the page into 3 columns) What will I miss out on if I do nothing?
a. In 6 months
b. In 1 year
c. In 3 years
🎆When you write this down. You are sending a signal to your subconscious mind (the one that’s doing the worrying for us) that I understand what the fear is about, I acknowledge the situation and I’ve already got a plan in place. So just chill!
🎆Now every time after this, when the same fear comes up about that decision/situation, think back to the plan you wrote down. And immediately you’d feel calm.
If something is keeping you up at night, this would be a god-send. This has come to my rescue and my clients many times.
I hope this helps and feel free to let me know if you have any questions.
Comment or PM with any questions or would like to know more…
Now…go break a leg!!! 🎆🎆🎆
💌 -With all my love- 💌