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How Successful People Jump Leaps & Bounds Before You Know It

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Time and time again I come across very smart people who would like to take their current role in their career to the next stage or double the income in their business, take on more responsibility, make a bigger impact, get more recognition, make more money …..you name it.

Most people come to me with very rigid lines in their mind about who they are, what they can and can’t do. And some of them even tell me that their challenge is that they need to be able to communicate better, write better emails, have more confidence, network more…and the list goes on.

As if they knew for sure that if they ‘did’ something different, they would have everything that they don’t have. Or if they stopped ‘doing’ some things, the challenges they are facing would go away.

And then they would be happier, have better people around them, be less stressed, take more vacations, make more money, make a bigger impact, etc.

So, the moment that they feel like something is missing their first idea is to upskill, do another course, a certification, a degree, work faster, work better, be more ‘productive’, manage time better, learn ‘persuasion’, “Win friends and influence people”, etc.

But very few people stop to ask themselves the question……

” What if I don’t have to ‘DO’ anything different?….”

“What if I’m not missing anything?”

“What if it’s about doing exactly the opposite of what I’ve been ‘DOING’ all this time….”

In fact…

What if it’s got less to do with doing…and more to do with how you are BEING?

Ahhhhhh……………

Yes…..

BEING!!!

What if it’s not another skills you need to pick or a course you need to do, another seminar that you have to go to….

But what if…just by shifting who you are being…..you challenges would go away….?

Everything that you want that you don’t have…would appear in front of you….

Everything that you don’t want to have in your life…..would just disappear like magic….

And every problem that you think you feel stuck in….would become unstuck…

Just…….what if?

This has been the basis of my work since I started my profession (sure… the skills, the tactics and the strategies play a part in it) and the very moment somebody realise this, their whole world changes.

But you have to be willing to open your eyes and look at the world from a different lens. And stop making excuses for the lens you are already wearing.

Because everything that you have in your life is because of the way you’re being right now. And everything that you don’t want in your life, is because you’re being in a way of attracting them.

So, before you think of taking another course, start another degree, or a certification….ask yourself….

What challenges do I wish would go away?

What goals have I been struggling to get to?

How am I being around these challenges?

Is it time to change the lens?



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

V.

P.S. Since it’s coming to the end of January 2019 already, if you still feel like you haven’t set yourself up to win, come join me and our community of extraordinary High Performers and let’s make this year an amazing one.

The Fastest Way to Living A Fulfilled Life

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

A few years ago, before starting the journey I’m on right now, I once had a good-paying corporate job, smashing goal after goal and going up the ranks like there’s no tomorrow. People around me said that I would go places. And that, I did.

But not in the way others had predicted.

One day I woke up and asked myself “Is this It? Is this really all there to it?”. I was great at what I did (so I was told) but I struggled to see myself doing it for the rest of my life. Something was missing. But at the time, I couldn’t tell what it was.

However, now that I know better, it dawned on me that the word I was looking for back then was “Fulfilment.” 

How Can Something So Important As Fulfilment Get Past Me?

Fulfillment, a feeling so strange yet so important. Something we strive to find but still ironically neglected because we are too busy being busy.

Some of you may beg to differ, constantly denying the sense of dissatisfaction you feel with your current job or life by saying things like “it doesn’t just put food on the table and besides, I’m good at it ” or “I’m lucky to even have a decent job, others wear their bodies out earning scraps.” While I empathize with your sentiments, having thought the same things when I was in your shoes, have you ever thought that there might be something else that you’d be even greater at, that would make the IMPACT that you’d always wanted to make in the world, earns the same amount of money and feel fulfilled at the same time?

Let me tickle your brain a little. Say, you’ve finally had a great weekend off work – no overtime, no extra shifts. You used it to spend time with the family, taking a trip to the beach, going shopping, and whatever else you thought would be nice to do. But then, Sunday evening arrives.

What feeling do you get when you think of going to work the next morning? Do you feel excited and think “OMG. I can’t wait till tomorrow!” Or, do you feel drained of energy, that catching a bug, getting the mumps, or any other kind of painful, pathetic reason would be much, much better if it would mean extending your weekend for another day. If you’re like me, who falls perfectly in the second category, then you’ve got a serious case of what I call The Monday Sickness.

What Causes Monday Sickness & Why It’s A Sign of Your Life Ending

Monday sickness; oh, what a dreadful affliction! I did not like it and I bet that right now, your feelings resonate with mine. Just when you finally think Monday’s about to end, your hopes of Tuesday getting any better gets crushed, the moment you wake up with the same feeling of dread eating away at you. That’s when you come to realize that it isn’t just Monday or Tuesday that makes you feel like that. The same feeling burdens you on Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays. Let’s just say you feel it every day of every week, every year, till the day you die (or a few years before that)! Talk about something that lasts a lifetime!

I realized this at a much later time before it was too late, that I was pushing this dreadful feeling into the back of my mind until I was a master at it.

So, if you ask me what had caused it – the answer is simple.

I WAS NOT FULFILLED.

I grinded for 40 hours (sometimes more) every week in order to enjoy the two days off I have during the weekend. I worked 48 weeks per year so that I get to do stuff that I really love for 4 weeks. I was sacrificing 92% of my time – my life – just to live a little bit better with what little time I had left to do things I REALLY valued most.

But then, I stopped. I realized that no one or no-thing ever had power over me. Even if I jumped on a train to find my destiny in Norway, no one will stop me. And no one can – even if they tried. It was time to let go of my fears. I was the master of my fate and only I knew how to live my life. So I started to ask myself these questions:

  • Is this how I want to spend the rest of my life?

My answer was NO.

  • Will I ever find fulfillment in what I currently do?

It’s possible but highly improbable.

  • How do I flip the coin? How do I turn the tables?

 I already knew the answer.

  • Am I ready to have fun 48 weeks a year and feel like I’m only working for 4?

You bet I am.

 

And it changed my life forever. You can probably guess the insane cascade of events that came after. I can place a good bet people had called me crazy, stupid, or even mentally retarded at some point. And I can’t blame them. Looking back now, what I did back then was downright ridiculous. I quit a well paid job, relinquished what authority I’ve built over the years, and went on a journey to find myself. You must be thinking, “No way! I thought that only happened in movies!” But, it really did happened to me. You’d be surprised at the strength of your own conviction.

I can tell you about what I did, how I did it, and what lessons I learned from that journey but I’m afraid one article cannot contain the richness of the experiences I’ve had – so let’s save it for another day. All I can say is that everything worked out exactly as I hoped for (with a few bumps on the road of course). And now I’m having more fun than I ever could’ve imagined. I found exactly what fulfilled my life and it made me all the more merrier and richer.

Now, I’m on a mission. A mission to find people who were once like me. Caged in, trapped, and empty. I made it my life’s advocacy to share my story hoping that the right ears get to hear my message.

Along my journey, I came across a book written by Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients and kept them company on the last 12 weeks of their lives. She would often ask her patients about their lives’ biggest regrets. If there’s anything at all they would like to redo, given the chance. Bronnie talked about the phenomenal clarity of vision people would gain at the end of their lives. It’s all in the book – along with other common themes she observed in the course of their conversations.

The first thought that came to my mind as I unravelled the contents of the book was why people keep realizing things too late. I mean, why do I have to wait until I’m lying on my death bed to realize what I actually wanted to do with my life? When by that time, there’s hardly anything I can do about it anymore?

Why don’t I ask life’s most important questions now?

If you died tomorrow, which one of these regrets do you think you’d have?

  1. I wish I’ve had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so much.
  3. I wish I’ve had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish I gave more value to my family
  6. I wish I worked for something I find purpose in.
  7. I wish I asserted myself better.
  8. I wish I didn’t let public opinion get the best of me.
  9. I wish I lived more carefree
  10. I wish I had let myself be happier.

A part of what I do today is working with highly successful individuals who know that right now, they are nowhere near where they should be – people who know that they are meant for something much greater than what they have already achieved. They believe that in order to break through barriers, they have to play a much bigger game.

YOU are one of these special people.

And my role is to create a strategy that gets you to the other side of that barrier – faster than you ever thought possible. By combining what you think you want in life with what truly fulfils you, great change happens.

By taking away the things that hinder you from truly actualizing the person you are destined to be, you become unstoppable. And that’s when true magic happens.

After all, this isn’t about me. I’ve already found a good story to tell.

This is all going to be about you and others like you. Living a life more cruel than dying – a life of regret. Now, do you desire to keep living on like that?

It’s your call.



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

XOXO

 

V.

5 Fatal Mistakes You Must Avoid on The Route to A Successful and Fulfilling Career

Hi!

I'm Vindya.

You know that you are meant to be doing something much bigger than you do now. You are even scared to say it out loud because no one would understand. Well, bring in your biggest dreams and your biggest fears and I will help you get there faster than you ever thought possible.

Recent research by Pew Research Center revealed 48% of women working in a male dominated STEM environment say ‘their gender has made it harder for them to succeed in their job.’ Being a woman also made it more difficult to secure a promotion. Fortune notes only 6.4% of Fortune 500 companies have a woman at the helm. With International

Women’s Day just passing by (March 8th), it’s timely to discuss how women can smash through the glass ceiling on route to a successful and fulfilling career at the top.

As much as I could write for days about the faux pas of forgetting your roots, not updating your skills, not setting clearly defined goals, clambering over others in an ambitious ploy to get ahead… and how these can be detrimental to achieving a successful, fulfilling career, I want to delve deeper, right down to those challenges not many people talk about.

You know, the ones that matter.

And when you throw ‘fulfilment’ into the mix… Well, many forget to consider life satisfaction early in their career, with the resultant later regret.

After six years in the corporate management realm and three as a high-performance coach, I’ve discovered there are some common threads, some familiar mistakes, that hold women back from achieving their impossible and a life they love.

What are they? I’m glad you asked!

1. Being Comfortable in the Grey Zone

It’s common to become so darn good and praised for something, that you settle right down into that comfortable space. This is a mistake many highly talented women make. When you perform at a significantly higher level than those around you and are constantly looked up to as the expert — the companies veritable bees knees — the push from your team can drop away. Those who can move you forward may be off leading other teams not beside you, egging you forward. When you are a high performer, this adulation can be addictive, although not constructive.
The higher up the ladder you climb, whether in your own business or another’s, the less constructive criticism is on offer. Those below you don’t want to risk retaliation, those above you are contented… After all, your work is at a high standard. Little do they know what you might be able to achieve, if you’re brutally honest with yourself.

While you may be an elite performer, ticking off targets and growing a good team, compared to playing at your full capacity, you’re treading water. In the long run, this will cause you to underperform.
So, what can you do about it?

The moment you realise what you do is no longer significantly challenging; the point at which you recognise you achieve set tasks efficiently leaving ample time to twiddle your thumbs, bored and under challenged, it is time to chase that next challenge and push your boundaries further. As they say, if you’re not growing you’re dying. It’s time to move forward and create a new legacy.

 

2. Your Mentor - The Be All and End All?

What is more damaging than not having a support network? Having the wrong kind of support.

While you know you are meant for something greater than your current position, your company may not realise… or even have the know-how to enable you to achieve it.

It is at this point many smart people seek out a mentor.

Sensible strategy!

However, there’s a catch. A mentor can only help you with something that s/he has done. They can only show you what they have achieved, given the circumstances they were working in. So, if you are reaching for a goal that somebody else has attained, this might be the best move. They can illuminate the best path forward for you, and support you as you progress.

But if you are one of the rare creatures, with an entrepreneurial heart and spark, who dream of following the path less travelled… even a path not yet created… this could either slow you down or jam you abruptly and unhappily on the wrong path. You need to find a high performance coach who will support you in chasing the unthinkable and encourage, guide and focus you on the best way to achieve the impossible.

If you wanna play a much bigger game, you need the right support network around you to challenge you, help you discover the secrets to break through previously unbroken barriers and do it (kind of) comfortably in your own skin.

This will determine how far you go.

 

3. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

The mindset harnessed, strategies followed, tactics used and people followed to get you here simply won’t get you there.

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them”
– Albert Einstein

Ok, so where you are now isn’t a problem per se, but Albert’s words clarify a truth. You are here because of your current thinking. To change, to achieve more, to explode from your current cocoon in a vivid array of accomplished colours, you need to grow and alter your mindset further.

As most would understand, you need a new set of skills to achieve something bigger, better and more fulfilling. But that’s where a lot of people stop.

And this will lead to a profound, potentially painful downfall.

Most of the time, in my experience, skill (or the ‘how to’) is the last element lacking. If you are chasing your next big thing and, after trying for a while you’re still not there, it’s because you haven’t quite achieved the right mindset. To explain in the simplest terms, the mindset you require at an employee level is completely different to being your own boss. An employee mindset in a business owners body is a sure fire way to failure.

This may sound like a fluffy topic, although the world of neuroplasticity and brain science shows it isn’t. And this single reason could explain why you haven’t got to where you want to, yet.
The incredible thing is, I’ve seen a two-second insight transform an entire outlook. This is how some elite-performing people have changed the world, sometimes overnight.
So, a crucial question to ask yourself honestly is, what beliefs do you hold that are getting in the way?

 

4. Ignoring Values That Stab You In The Back

Whether the desire is a new role, a pay rise or a specific client on the books, everything we do as humans is driven by deep rooted values. Most of the time these values are hidden, laying under the cover of subconsciousness, peddling the wheels that move the cogs of our actions. We cannot not see them when we look from above.

If you are not aware of these values, conflict will invariably arise. If I asked you now what values you hold, the chances that you would really know the deep-down true values that pedal those cogs are very slim.
Confronting? Yes! You might even be filled by a flurry of thoughts shouting, ‘She doesn’t know what she’s talking about?’ That’s ok too. Stick with me…

Let’s explore the true story of one of my past clients.

She was consciously driven to become incredibly successful in her field. She’d watched her family struggle financially when growing up, and didn’t want that for her own. Yet when she was a child, her parents often commented that, ‘successful people take advantage!’ In her case, she couldn’t permanently reach further than a certain level. Higher level success came, and with it, sufficient self-sabotage to pull her back down to where her hidden values thought she should be.
Gay Hendricks also talks about this in his book, The Big Leap.

It’s not uncommon.
The solution?

Firstly, understand your highest values before working you way up the ladder; the sooner the better. That way, you will enjoy your successes, have an easier path, and both get the very best from, and become your very best self.

Secondly, make sure you are acutely aware of any conflicting, competing values. Work on these before they do real, irrevocable harm.

Thirdly, if these values have been undermining your efforts and subverting your success, now is the time to deal with them.

 

5. Assuming It's A Straight Line

Accept and embrace the convoluted path to higher level success. See in the earlier days, there was less to lose. Less pay, pride, and position. As you rose to lofty ranks, the way down now appears perilous, full of dangers and deadly depths. So you take less risks in order to remain on top of your perch. However, it was the risks that previously reaped each new reward.

The bar for success is often higher each time you take on a new role or start a fresh project. This provides the opportunity to grow and develop, to craft a new and invigorated, expansive mindset.

It also offers the chance to settle right down into that comfortable space we talked about earlier, and pass the work, responsibility and blame onto others. This is a mistake common in the highly talented fraternity.

Failure to step out onto the ledge and take educated risks results in lost opportunities, or even worse, not realising your full potential.

And remember, whatever you did to get here will not get you there, especially when you crave greater things.
The solution?

Fall in love with the process. As with anything new, you sometimes have to suck for a while before competence kicks in. A step back may be needed to take 10 steps forward and leave an even greater legacy.

 



Now, I would love to hear from you:

What is one insight that changed everything for you from this article?

And what is one tiny action you are going to take as a result of that insight?

Use the comment box down below and share as much detail as possible in your reply as your story may help someone else have an even greater insight.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to be here.

Sincerely,

XOXO

 

V.